What's Normal?

  • I am not normal, and neither is my wife. In fact, I’m pretty sure no one I know is normal. Everyone is unique, which means deciding what is and what is not normal for my daughter is an ongoing learning process. I’ve learned that while advice can help many times, it should always be taken with a grain of salt – what work’s for one child doesn’t always work for another. When and why have you needed advice? Did you follow the advice you received? If so how did it work out for you, if not why? Finally, now that you’ve been through, or are going through, a point where advice can help/helped: what advice would you offer for those in a similar situation?

  • I think you definitely need take any advice with a grain of salt and make a decision as to whether or not it really applies to you. There is no such thing as normal, in my opinion. I try to explain that to my rather unique 9-year-old when she questions why she likes to do things differently from her friends. The same is true for parents. Parenting is largely instinctual and every parent and child is different.

    I ask for advice when I find myself faced with something that I am not familiar with or something that doesn't make sense. I asked for a lot of advice when I was a new mom 10 years ago, and again when my youngest was born 2 years ago, simply because I couldn't remember what I learned the first time around. Some helped, some didn't. Either way, I always did what was best for myself and my child.