Jealous mom!

  • Hi I have a 2 month old baby and at his stage now, i noticed that he is beginning to be more alert and respond to us more. I lived in our house with my hubby and my husband's aunt. My aunt helped me once in awhile looking after the baby.she's helping me looking after him while i eat or do some errands.i do appreciate her help but I admit, im kinda jealous to my aunt because i felt that she's getting a lot of attention from my baby and i felt that its unfair after all the hard work, sleepless nights, and love i shared with him.there are times im asking myself if my baby will miss me or if he loves me at all. im worried that he might love my aunt more than me. i know its not right to think like this.. please help me!

  • From the outside looking in, I think two major things are at play: your aunt is really just trying to help you and also, those new mommy hormones (and sleep deprivation) can be brutal. No one will ever replace a loving mommy. Your baby knows you and will not love your aunt more than you. I bet your aunt has no clue you feel this way. If she's ever had children she knows what it is like to be a new mom. I bet if you tell her that you are worried the baby will love her more than you, she will back off a little bit. It is so hard to keep perspective when you are exhausted and have just had a baby. Hang in there, it isn't as bad as it seems.

  • I know it may seem like he might not love you now, but it's only because he's too little to know how. The bond between mommy and baby is one of the most unique and unbreakable on Earth. You will always be first with him, and those nights you spend walking the floors while he cries and time you spend making sure his needs are met only make your connection stronger.

    With my second baby, I worried about leaving her at daycare or with my mom after I went back to work. I didn't have experience in leaving an 8-month-old, since I was able to stay home with my older daughter for nearly a year. I was afraid that she wouldn't bond with me the way she should. I asked a colleague of mine what her experience had been (she had a baby just after I found out I was pregnant). She told me that there is no substitute for mommy, and that every night when she comes home from work, her little one runs to her with open arms.

    Just keep giving your little boy all the love and affection already are, and know that even if he can't show it right now, he loves like no other woman in the world. As he gets older, he'll let you know just how much you mean to him.

  • You're going to have a lot of chances to bond, and right now her help is letting you have some time to yourself which can go a long way toward your emotional health. Eventually she wont be around as much and you'll be seeing and doing things with your baby that she'll only get to hear about. Dont worry, he's going to love you as much as you love him!