need help with brestfeeding

  • Most hospitals have breastfeeding support groups. Also, all maternity wards are supposed to have a lactation specialist. Ask about this prior to delivery. I have a two year old and one on the way. I breast fed before, and plan to do the same this time. It is not all "peachy." There will be times when they dont want to latch, or you need help. There is something called nipple shields...invest in these when beginning, and it will help in the future. Good luck!!

  • WOW I had a very similar problem, but I actually took a class at a hospital an was still lost. I just found out that Babies R Us has classes for pregnant moms. I just went to a breastfeeding one. They are free so all they do is put on a video, but they had great ideas on how to get help and the terms used.

  • @wiznut101

    It is an opinion, not a fact, that nipple shields are a necessity.  It varies based upon the mother/baby situation.  In some instances they are helpful.  In other instances they are a hinderance.  Whether they are needed should be determined by the mother and (if she consults with one) her lactation professional.

  • I found a great breast feeding support group that i went to prior to giving birth and still attend, my baby is 2 months old.  It was not "natural" for me.  I was lucky that the hospital i gave birth in had a wonderful lactation staff.  One of the lactation nurses that visited me in the hospital was actually the nurse who runs the support group.  This type of group is wonderful, it is open, no stresses, and you can see how other moms feed their babies, it helped to watch how they held their babies.  It is still a learning process for me at the 2 month mark.  Good luck and be persistent with the nurses, it will pay off and be a rewarding experience for you.  

  • I disagree that some babies will just not latch.  They WILL latch with patience and persistence.  You have to stick with it and stay positive.  Don't give up.  You can do it :)

  • It took my daughter about a week to learn how to latch on and would only latch on to my left breast. I purchased a nipple guard, she latched on immediately with it on and after about 3 times using it she learned to latch on both breasts without it and I havent had a problem since. I too have large breasts and thought this was the problem but nope...our babies are made to fit us otherwise, the human population would die off.

    My advice would be to stay positive and don't give up...sometimes its all about patience and I understand the emotions when you have a screaming baby and you feel helpless. Use all the help you can get and try the nipple guard...it worked wonders for me.

  • My hospital actually had La Leche lactation consultants visit us in the maternity ward which was really helpful.  In the past couple of years, I think support for breastfeeding has grown.  A good book to check out is "The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding" which is put out by La Leche.  It's really great that you were pumping milk for your first baby. If latching is your main concern, the rule of thumb was to try to get the lower lip in line with the outer edge of the aureole first and then the baby will open wide to get the top lip around your nipple. If you are feeding the baby on your left breast, the baby's head should end up further left on the breast so make sure her body/neck/head is supported to move her left as she latches. If the latch is just around the nipple, you'll be sore. Try to get it around the aureole.  Anyway, some of the most important things I learned is  1. Hydrate! Drink even more than you do when pregnant.  If you don't have enough fluid in you, especially during the hot summer, it's really hard to create milk.  2. The more you breastfeed, the more milk your body makes to keep up with demand. So even if you are supplementing with formula, try to pump to make up for that missed session. Good luck!

  • my son is 13 weks old n he will not latch on i am still pumping n feeding with little formula.  i found  lot of help from kellymom.com n there is a link on there for exclusiely pumping moms which has given me a lot of support i cannot get the lactaion specialist at my hosp to call me back for help so i gave up on her help.  if u cant get this new baby to latch too there are alot of places for suport for "epping" moms whose children will not latch  its not about how they get ur milk as long as they get it for as long as u can supply it hope this helps u

  • My daughter was born on April 21st of this year and after having amazing success with feeding her, I hit a dry spell and couldn't seem to keep up with her demands.  I was told by my sister and mother that the quickest way to produce more milk is to drink ALOT of water.  I hate drinking liquids, but tried it and it worked the first day. She is almost 2 months old now and have my bad days here and there were I haven't drinken enough and after feeding her I can barely pump two ounces for the rest of the day.  When I drink plenty of fluids, I am able to easily pump 5 ounces by the end of the day along with feeding her.  So I can definitely say that drinking liquids for me was an easy and quick fix.  Also, just be patient....they can't come out conquering everything right off the bat without having a few hang-ups.  Hope this helps and good luck! 

  • some of your local wic offices also have breastfeeding peer counselors who are a great resource and support line.

  • I know how you feel, I wear a DD, and depending on where I get my bra sometimes a ddd, but there should be a lactation consultant and the hospital, I did get lots of books on breast feeding that were approved by the la latcha league?? (sorry not sure if that is how you spell it). You can do it, but you just have to tell yourself " I AM GOING TO BREAST FEED!" not "I am going to try" I found that if you have to hold it some to kinda make it smaller to get into the mouth or the football hold worked with my 1st child. I have 3 kids and the 1st and 2nd I did for 8 months when they got their tooth I just couldn't take it any more and my 3rd Is only 6 months but I have a problem not making enough milk so I supplement.  Hope this helps but you just have to talk to someone that knows what they are doing, I didn't know much and the consultant helped until I got it!

  • If you want to nurse don't let your first experience scare you off.  Every baby is different and so is every nurse:)  I was in terrible pain with both of my babies for three days until my milk came in.  I always hurried the babies.  What I mean is...You need to wait until they open up big before you have them latch on. I always hurried them on and their mouths weren't opened big enough yet and they would bite down on my nipple.  

    It was once explained to me like taking a big bite of a sandwich.  You wait till they open big then bring them in to you with their lower jaw and then upper jaw comes in contact with you next.  They will get a lot of great immunity even in the first few days from the collostrum (spelling?:).  The clear liquid before your milk come in is very high in calories and helps with their immunity.  I had the nurse thing happend to me too with my first child as far as she took him and gave him a bottle.  I was very mad.  It never happend again with the second child.  One bottle doesn't hurt them, but I wanted to nurse him.  At any rate it all worked out fine.  I nursed the first 8mo and my second 6mo. 

    The only other advice I can give is as soon as you are able (within the first hour) nurse even for 5min-10min. I even asked everyone who came in (nurses and lactations specialist) if they had any tips for me.  Everyone has their own advise and some of it helped.  Stay posititve! -S

  • The nurses were no help for me either with my first 2 and with my third it went a lot better. Request to the nurses that you want the lactation nurse to be there right after the babys born.

  • Wow, I'm so horrified at your experience.  I had wonderful lactation consultants that helped me through.  The hospital that I gave birth in has a Women's Center that is absolutely wonderful to work with.  They have a new Mom's support group that is awesome and were always available to answer my questions.  At 3 1/2 months my milk was decreasing and I talked to a consultant a couple times a week for several weeks.  I am glad you are now getting the support you need.  It is an emotional time which makes it difficult to ask for help sometimes.  Some people (even my OB which I fired) don't get how important bf is for those of us who wish to do it.  If it's important to us, it should be important to them.

  • omg, i can't believe you got such a nurse. I just gave birth 1 wk ago & all of my nurses were very helpful in BF. And they are very patient :) thumb up for that 'cause I really need help, first bb & my mom is currently out of town. Talk to a lactation consultant & remember milk doesn't come as soon as you gave birth. my bb was hungry for 2 days & I had to give him formula. Thank god my milk started to flow on the 5th day but still now enough. He is on breast milk & formula now. God bless you & your babies!