need help with brestfeeding

  • My best advise is to try the Football Hold (baby is sitting to the side of you instead of tummy-to-tummy) for larger breasts.  My Lactation Consultant recommended it for me and it worked great.  At the hospital, ask for a lactation consultant to visit you.  They are much more help than the nurses about breastfeeding.  They also usually give you a phone number to reach them at as well.  Sometimes it does take work to get a newborn to latch correctly but after some work, dd should become a pro at it.  Also my LC advised me that if i am getting nervious or anxious, or frustrated, the baby can sense it and it makes him the same which hinders progress, so stay as calm as possible.   I am sorry you had to go thru all that the first time...good luck!

  • First off, I hope you spoke to someone about the way you were treated by that nurse. I am a nurse and CAN NOT imagine treating anyone like that! There should be lactation consultants at the hospital where you give birth, so from the beginning, you need to ask for help. NO ONE should EVER be frustrated with you for asking for help. I am heartbroken for you and your previous experience and hope that things go a lot better for you this time around!

  • AuroraBelle08, I do understand how you feel.  I have three children and a fourth on the way.  My first did not want to eat for the first day of her life and I thought that it was me....I then took her home from the hospital and then she would not latch on right. I ended having a breast infection and tried again and she ended up making me very sore. When she was a month old I had an appendectomy and lost my milk supply.  She was a month old when I had to quit.  She turn out just fine. I was crushed too..  My other two children were breastfed and they took it like they were supposed to.  You new baby may not have the same problem.

  • Best thing to do is let your ob/gyn know u wanna nurse your this baby this way everyone is on the same page. the doctor office should be able to give u information and if not go to the la leache leauge website, they a national support group for breastfeeding moms n they can help u once the baby gets here

  • Ugh.  That is horrible behavior on behalf of the hospital staff!  Sorr you had to go through that!

    It's great that you're thinking about what you'll do this time around...before you have to go through the birth and all those accompanying hormones!

    There are as many opinions about breastfeeding (and how to do it best) as there are professionals that work with breastfeeding mothers!  If you can find someone (e.g., lactation consultant) that can offer you the assistance that you, your baby, and your breasts (LOL) need, then that would be super and will certainly help you through those very, very trying times with nursing. 

    Each of my children were different in what did well and not so well with nursing.  It's a LEARNING process.  It is NOT a natural proces...consider that all other mammals nurse their young but that their young/babies are born walking or swimming, etc!!!  Our human young require a lot of work!  This includes nursing!

    Best of luck to you.  I hope that you can find support through professionals, books, and other sources.

  • oh my gosh i cant believe your nurses =O thats horrible! youshould have filed a complaint =( i remember that everday in the hospital i had to ask a nurse to help me because i was at a total loss at what to do. one thing that i would recommend in laying on your side with the baby on its side to it spares a lot of back pain in the long run but never fall asleep that way.also try breast feeding hotline or go down to a wic office they provide lots of help =)

  • Have your doctor arrange a meeting with a lactation consultant, or with successful breastfeeding moms. If there is not one locally, ask for a meeting with a nurse that has successfully breast fed prior to birth. It should be possible to arrange for either the lactation consultant or the nurse to be available to help you immediately following birth. It might sound a bit awkward, but if there is someone that would let you watch them nurse a very young baby, that would probably be helpful. There's nothing wrong with being nervous of something you have no first-hand knowledge of. That was just wrong of that nurse and the hospital should not allow that. I would suggest you specifically have documentation in place stating you do not wish hospital staff to give your child formula if you will be returning to the same hospital. You can get some already prepared formula in a can and place it in your hospital kit as backup so that if it becomes necessary, you can give formula at your discretion.


    Babies usually know to suck, but they don't just automatically know what to do any more than they know how to change their own diaper. You might look up la leche league in your area, though I am not even sure they still exist. Back when my mother breastfed my sibs and I, it was just not the thing done, and they formed a group to promote breast feeding called la leche league. They had monthly meetings and helped each other. Big breasts shouldn't make it so you can't nurse, but you may have to adjust position a bit.  I should know, I am also a large breasted woman, and I successfully breast fed two children. Having seen my mother nurse my siblings, I sort of had an idea what to do, which was lucky. None of the staff at the hospital where I had my first had ever nursed a baby, and they acted just like that nurse did to you if anyone needed help. I didn't read all the answers here, but will just suggest the things that worked for me.


    Get a pillow from your bed, or get one of those oversized c-shaped pillows. Sit in a chair with arms. Place the pillow on your lap so that it is covered. It will work better if you have a low foot stool for your feet so that your legs are level or your knees are just slightly higher but not much. You can relax if it doesn't work the first time, your baby won't starve in the hour or 2 a couple of tries take. They've been well-fed inside you. 

    Place one arm on the arm of your chair sort of cupped and lay the baby's head into the cup in your arm was always easiest for me, but some people prefer  to place the baby's head in their palm. Tickle baby's cheek to stimulate the suck reflex using your free hand, allowing baby's weight to be supported by the pillow. Use your free hand to place your nipple into the baby's mouth. Good news! This is usually MUCH easier for large-breasted women! Once the baby has latched on, you can adjust position a bit. Usually it works best if you can arrange it so baby's nose is free to the air to the outside of your breast, baby's lower face is against the feeding breast, and baby's body is turned onto the baby's side so that you are tummy to tummy.


    If you find this method does not work, never fear! Some children find it easier to nurse in the football position, or simply prefer the closeness and warmth. Again sit in a chair with a pillow on your lap and your feet on a low foot stool. Think of how a football player tucks a football under their arm protectively before they start to run.  Select the side you will be trying to nurse the baby on. Lean somewhat to the other side of the chair. Place the baby's bum kind of to the side on your hip so that the head sticks forward just a bit further than your breast and is held in the palm of your hand which is on the same side as you will be nursing. Again use your free hand to manuever the nipple into baby's mouth. This will be easier if your nipple is a little tightened, so sprinkle it with a little ice water if needed to acheive this. Once baby has latched on, arrange so that baby's nose is exposed for breathing and baby's lower face is pressed to you.  With a little practice, you will find you can rest your supporting arm on the pillow and chair. Many moms like this position best because you have a free hand.

  • My name is Angela and I do understand.  I have a 4 month old and this is my third child.  I had problems breast feeding my second child and there was no help in site.  But with this baby the entire delivery was horrific, from nursing staff to cleaning people but anyway.  The nurses and lactation people in the hospital were no help for me.  I found help from my pediatrician lactation person.  My nipple are somewhat flat and my baby was having touble latching on.  You have to squeeze as much as possible of your nipple and get it in your baby's mouth.  And looking back I realize that's the reason I had trouble breast feeding my second child she couldn't latch on.  My nipple were raw and bleeding in the hospital because they were helpful.  I let them heal after I got home and started over and didn't have any problems until she decided about three months in that the bottle was easier.  I tried two different breast pumps and rented the hospital grade one.  But they didn't work.  So I felt bad for awhile not being able to breast feed but I did as long as she was willing.  I hope things work out for you this time.  Just try different lactation people there is one out there that will help you figure out what will work for you and good luck.  I would love to continue to talk if you have other questions. take care

  • some hospitals also have lactation specialists..... i had MANY issues breastfeeding and once i found a lac was very easy.... they even allow us to call them at home!!! i would look into one of them in your area!

  • I am so very sorry you had such a terrible first experiance trying to breast feed! Some nurses get super fustrated & don't know how to help their patients so they just lash out at them! I had a wonderful breast feeding experiance with my little girl! I had a hard time getting her to latch RIGHT! She would latch on but then it would be horribly painful the WHOLE time & I would just suck it up through the pain. One of my friends told me about a lactation consultant she knows & she hooked me up with her about 3 or 4 weeks after my daughter was born. She was AMAZING! She helped me by explaining that we women think we have to be SUPER-women, because of that we place so much pressure on ourselves to do everything on our own or if we don't get something perfect the first time we feel like we failed our child in some way. She explained that babies know what to do (in spite of what the Dr's say) they know out of the womb how to go to the breast. Some may have a tougher time of it for some reason or other & some, if they are premies, have trouble because they haven't had much time to develop the sucking mechanism that babies naturally get in the last stages of pregnancy. She helped me understand that my stress about breast feeding translates to my daughter & that's why she might be having a rougher time latching correctly. Depending on where you live, there should be support groups you can go to for breast-feeding mothers. She ran one where I live & it was nice to be able to hang out with other breastfeeding mothers & express my fustrations without judgement. She said alot of birth centers will have resources to help out newly breast-feeding mothers. The doula & midwifes are usually the best women to ask about breastfeeding help since the deal in the natural home births & are usually more in the know about all things natural. I hope this helps! I truly wish you all the best & hopefully you can enjoy the breast feeding experiance with your newest little joy! It really is the best bonding experiance!
  • most hospitals offer a lactation center or a lactation specialist on hand.. i tried for 3 months to breast feed and i gave up and pumped.. my son will be a year in august and i have pumped since day one.. i had a rude nurse the first night too.. its hard u have to teach them  and try ur best to be patient.. i know its hard i bought a breast feeding book its called the complete book of breastfeeding 

  • No, it is not as easy as it would seem it should be :-)!  Most hospitals have lactation specialists.  Some people require nipple shields to aid them.  I used to pinch my nipple and flag the baby's lips with it.  You can also stroke their cheek.  Make sure as much as the nipple is in their mouth as possible.  Drink lots of fluids and relax to help your milk come down.  Try to be in a quiet room with the baby.  Practice holding the baby in different holds like the football hold.  Use a safety pin to mark your bra, so you know which breast you started on last time and alternate.  The first breast will be drained completely, then switch.  If you don't do this religiously, you might end up lopsided lol!  Good luck and don't give up!  I nursed all four of my children the first year!  Very rewarding!  To release the baby, press down on your breast near the corner of their mouth.

  • Ok... I had the same problem when I was in the hospital! I couldn't get my baby to latch on either. But luckily, I had a good nurse taking care of me and Cali. She said to take your free hand and gently stroke her cheeks starting at the corners of the mouth. It really helped. She latched on and started eating. I also have very large breasts and wondered if they were to large for her mouth. And another thing you can do, is right before you start breast feeding.. "play" with your nipples ( I know that sounds weird but it works), It makes your nipples hard so its easier for the baby to latch on.


  • Try La Leche league. They can help you find someone in your area to help with breastfeeding. The website is I would also recommend finding a hospital that supports and promotes breastfeeding. Soem hospitals will have a lactation specialist on staff to come and help mothers with breastfeeding. Lactation specialists will spend as much time as you need to help you and your baby with different techniques for nursing. I hope this helps and good luck with your pregnancy.

  • I breastfed my son for 51/2 successful months, and let me say it was no thanks to the mean lactation nurse at the hospital.  I found a breastfeeding basics class offered at my hospital and it was worth every penny.  In addition, I was lucky enough to have a breastfeeding support group offered through my hospital.  The lactation consultant was much nicer with this group.  I strongly urge you to check your hospital or others in you area for these types of groups.  I only had to end breastfeeding because of my health issues of kidney stones and surgery, but was grateful I had almost six successful months.  Good luck to you.