Any older mom's out there????

  • I just joined today. I wonder if there are any 40+ mom's out there like me. I have two teenage boys: 15 and 17, and married for 20 years. Still anxious about fetal abnormalities because of my age. I'm 10 weeks and am having my first ultrasound today. Just curious of what tests any of you have chosen. I'm not sure about CVS or amnio; too invasive. Trying to decide in that department.  Anyone have advice as to what tests to have performed?

  • Hi

    I'm 40 and am 27 weeks pregnant with my 2nd.  My son is 17 and graduating this year  :)

    I did not get the amnio ... too many risks.  I had genetic tests done where they measure the baby from ultrasounds.  I got to watch her pay for a while  :)   And then went from there.  Everything was negative with those tests.  I would recommend that, sorry I don't know what the test are called, but they should be able to tell you when you go for genetic testing.  It wasn't until after 20 weeks that they do these tests though. 

    Hope this helps.


  • Thanks for the post! I think that I will do the same test. There is one with an ultrasound/blood test that I need to do before my first trimester is over. Soon! I don't want anything invasive either. I think you are talking about the same test. Good luck with your pregnancy and baby. I wish you the best!

  • I'm 41, having my 2nd baby. My daughter will be just about 7 when the new baby arrives. I had a blood test and nuchal fold u/s, and results came back showing me as having the same risk for a down's syndrome baby as a 26 year old. We were offered further tests, including amnio, and declined due to the risks. I've told my doctor I am fine with non-invasive tests.

  • Yes, that sounds like the same test I took. 

    Thank you.  Good luck with yours too.  Hope everything goes well for you.

  • Hi I am only 32. But the father is 44 and that puts my baby at high risk. They offered me test as well. Were they plan to take the DNA of the baby at 11 weeks and they can tell everything even the sex of the baby but aftertalking to friends i dont think im going to go through with it. I had 2 miscarrages before this pregnancy so i dont want to take that chance it is schedualed for May 14th.. They are to do major blood test on both of us then an extensive ultrasound some genetic counsling then the DNA test but i am not going to allow them to do that. I am so worried but i dont want to abored this baby! So i guess we will see what the other test results say.

  • hi,

    i'm 40 with newborn 3mos. and 6 yr old..i am considered high risk and had genetic screening and amnio done..everything worked out with no complication..

    as far as the amnio, it was done in the office. i drove home and no lifting for a couple of days. just info:)

  • I am 38 and my baby will be 4 weeks tomorrow. I had the lab work/ultrasound test done (sorry can't remember the name) and my doctor called me at work and scared me to death. He told me that I had a high risk of Down's Syndrome or a multitude of other problems and he gave me two options - do an amnio or get an abortion. I cried, I talked to my family, and I prayed. Ultimately, I put it in God's hands and He gave me an angel. She's healthy and happy and I'm so glad that I had faith that everything would be fine.

    Take care of yourself and everything will be fine. My other kids are 11 and 15 and this is like starting all over, but I'm so glad we did. I have enjoyed this baby from the very beginning and appreciate everything more now than I ever did. I don't take life for granted this time. I know this baby will be grown and making her own decisions in a blink of an eye, just like my other kids.

    Enjoy the miracle of life!

  • Thank you soo much for your reassuring words. I'm glad that your baby turned out healthy! Im going to have the same test done on May 14th. It's also good to know that women my age are having healthy babies.

  • i have a 4 month old daughter. i am 39 did not do any of the test. we just asked God to give us a healthy baby. she is perfect. God gives you only what u can handle. things will be fine

  • Hi, I just joined today.  I am 42 and expecting I am 5 wks.  I have two boys 15 and 20.  I am very anxious as last year I had 2 mc's.  We have not discussed any testing yet, I have my 1st ultrasound on the 19th and 1st OB consult so depending on how the ultrasound goes we will have to wait and go from there.  Let us know how the test go.

  • I am 47 and had my baby 6 months ago and he is perfect.  It doesn't get anymore high risk than being a 46 year old mom to be (turned 47 in Feb).  I didn't have any genetic testing except for the ultrasound where they measure everything when I was 21 weeks.  Since abortion wasn't an option for me, I didn't see any reason to take the risks involved with amnio etc.  I had my little Halloween miracle on 10-31, 3 weeks early but besides being small, he was perfect and has developed right on schedule.

  • Hi and congratulations! I'm 39 and I'm 24 wks pregnant with my second child aftrer 12 yrs.My husband and I knew the risks involved before we decided to try for another baby. I didn't get the amnio or the cvs.I agree to invasive and risky. Even though we know that the blood tests aren't always accurate regarding abnormalities  that's what we decided was good enough for us. I have had 2 ulstrasounds and 1 cardiac echo with the genetics far so good. the nucultraslucency test done between wks 16 and 20 is a non invasive test that can be done to possibly detect down's syndrome.This test my husband and i also declined to do. I'm in the medical field so a lot of my friends think I'm crazy to not have done any of these tests. The way my husband and I see it is no matter what the outcome we are having this baby. Good luck and I hope this helps.

  • Hey, I see you have a lot of encouraging words already but I wanted to let you know that my husband is 47 and I am 37 and we have a 3 week old beautiful little girl and chose the path of no testing.  Yes, I was concerned along the way as I am a special education teacher and see what struggles special needs kids go through but we had faith and explained to the puzzled specialists that it didn't matter if he/she was perfect as were not sening him/her back!  Big Smile  Anyway, follow your heart and make a decision you both can live with.  We lost the 2 babies before her and she was an unexpected miracle.  Good luck and God bless!

  • Yes thank you for your post!! I had my bloodtest/ultrasound yesterday and everything was found to be normal. The blood serum test will come back in a couple of weeks. Wow, you have two older boys too!!! This makes me feel sane/ Good luck with your ultrasound on the 19th. Let me know what you see.