Co-sleeping

  • My baby will not sleep in his crib. I have tried an tried, but he will sleep in there for about an hour then wake up screaming. I put him back to sleep, try to lay him down in his crib and he wakes right up. But this time, I'm just ready to go to sleep. So he ends in the bed with me. What steps can I take to get him to sleep alone in his crib?

  • Just out of curiosity, how old is your baby? If he's a newborn he may just find the crib too big, afer all he's been tucked up tight inside mom for 9 months lol. You could try getting him a swaddler (they make great ones that velcro into place so you don't have to worry about them shifting and covering their heads with them!) which could help to make him feel more secure when you lay him down. Perhaps some white noise (radio on quiet static for example) or one of those stuffed animals that makes the sounds like heartbeats as well.

    Beyond that I'm not sure what to suggest as my little girl and I (she's 3 months now) did co-sleep her first couple of  months. I had a positioner for her and kept her up near my head so that I wouldn't roll on her but so that she was right there and could feel and see me if she woke up at night. She sleeps in her bassinet mostly now but if she's fussy she still sleeps with me some nights.

  • PeytonsMama

    Just out of curiosity, how old is your baby? If he's a newborn he may just find the crib too big, afer all he's been tucked up tight inside mom for 9 months lol. You could try getting him a swaddler (they make great ones that velcro into place so you don't have to worry about them shifting and covering their heads with them!) which could help to make him feel more secure when you lay him down. Perhaps some white noise (radio on quiet static for example) or one of those stuffed animals that makes the sounds like heartbeats as well.

    Beyond that I'm not sure what to suggest as my little girl and I (she's 3 months now) did co-sleep her first couple of  months. I had a positioner for her and kept her up near my head so that I wouldn't roll on her but so that she was right there and could feel and see me if she woke up at night. She sleeps in her bassinet mostly now but if she's fussy she still sleeps with me some nights.

    My baby is older, almost 1. I did have him with me as a newborn, cause I had a c-section and my hubby worked 3rd shift and I was in a lot of pain for months. But as I healed and he got bigger, i have tried almost everything i thought. I just want a good night sleep and time with hubby!!!!

  • This sounds like a behavioral issue to me. Since he's used to sleeping with you, he doesn't want to change that. You may want to ask your pediatrician about what she suggests for easing that transition. Some moms perfer the Ferber method, which is basically letting them cry it out. You take small steps in getting your child used to sleeping by himself, but reassuring him that you're still there. This technique usually only takes a few days to work, but it's not for everyone.

    What you could also do is sit by the crib when he wakes up, so he gets the reassurance that you're there, but that he still has to stay in the crib. You can gradually move farther and farther away from the crib until he's conditioned to being comfortable in the crib. Any way you try it, be prepared for some nights of lost sleep. In the end, though, it's worth the sacrifice.

  • Hey there...I used to co sleep with my daughter too until about 2 mths ago I finally got her in her pack n play.  (she still sleeps in my room though) but to make the transition I started little by little.  First I stopped letting her nap after 6 pm.  That helped tucker her out and I would make sure she got her bottle between 5/6 that way by 9 9:30 she would be ready to eat which helped her to nod off.  When I gave her the bottle I laid her in the pack n play instead of rocking her to sleep that way she would nod off in her bed instead of my arms.  At first she would still wake up in the middle of the night but I would give her a bottle (which I kept the water/formula) by my bed and waited for her to nod of again.  May I suggest juice or something since your baby is older.  When she did i switched the bottle for the binky and usually she slept till 8/9 in the morning.  Hang in there.  It's nice to have structure and schedules but their babies and it doesnt always work.  My daughter sometimes doesnt want to sleep till 10 or 11 pm but when she finally tuckers out she's good for pretty much the whole night.  Hang in there....it's hard cuz you dont want your baby screaming but if you lay them down and if they fuss let them cry a minute or two then go in and try laying him down again. walk away and eventually he will get the point that he is a big boy (well he'll always be your little boy but you know what i mean :) ) and needs to sleep on his own:) 

  • HOW OLD WAS YOUR LITTLE ONE WHEN YOU PUT HIM IN HIS PACK & PLAY.

  • My daughter was around 8 mths old. (the little boy was for another lady) :) haha  SHe's 10 mths now, but she's been doing pretty well in there.

  • Nikki: For what? Sleeping? Playing?

    I used the Pack and Play for lots of things right from the start. My oldest was born in March, but we got an early summer that year and had only one air conditioner -- in our bedroom. She bunked in the PnP in there for the summer instead of her crib.

    For my youngest, I'd let her nap during the day in the PnP bassinette and sleep during the night in her crib upstairs. Then the whole thing went to daycare when she was six months old and she took all her naps in there. I don't think I ever really used it as a playpen.

  • i never use my pack n, when she first came home we used it for about 2 weeks then she switched to her crib, she has only slept in our bed maby three times in her 6 months i have brought her swing into our room and let her sleep in that when shes sick but that has only hapened twice i guess im mean to make her sleep in her own bed but i would rather have to deal with it now then in another 6 months and it be twice as bad

  • Trust me get them sleeping in their bed now as I have a 3 year old girl that did sleep with my husband and I until about 6 months ago.  I love her more than life itself but sometimes you just want to be alone with your spouse or even by yourself in bed.  Plus they get better nights sleep  if they do sleep in their own beds.  Right now its going to be hard getting your baby in his or her own bed but it will be harder later. Just let them cry it out of course check on them and put them in their own bed but dont say a word just a small kiss and keep doing the same thing it will take a couple of days but it does work.  I saw it on Supernanny thats where I got the idea.  And to be honest it hard on her anymore but I think its actuall harder on me but I know its for the best.  Good Luck.

  • Setting up a routine seems to help a lot (we transitioned our daughter to the crib at one point, though she is now back in the bed). It can give babies a sense of when they should be doing what. Also we tried to make our crib similar to the bed she had been in - adding noise, a small light she could turn on and off by herself, and putting her in at the same time we would have moved her to the bed. A full stomach always seemed to help too Wink. It is never easy listening to them cry, but often she would cry the first 5-10 minutes and then put herself to sleep after that. The first week or two of moving her into the crib were the hardest for her, but she adjusted after that pretty well.