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One of the first decisions you make as a new mom
is what to feed your baby. While this may seem like a simple choice, it's also
a very personal one. For some moms, breastfeeding is the way to go. For others,
bottle feeding is the best choice. And even more use a mixture of the two. In
the end, every mom wants to do what they feel is best for her baby's health and
nutrition. How did you decide what works best for you?
It is such a personal. More so than I ever thought. I always had it in my mind that I would breastfeed, but your body does not always cooperate. At the end of the day each of us needs to be comfortable with the choices we make. I learned to be ok with mine, but it did take a while.
I'm glad that you are happy with your decision. I took my 6month old to the doctor today and she said he need formula because he's not gaining enough wait, he should be at least 2 pounds heavier. I kinda feel like a failure, i've been breastfeeding him this whole time and things felt like they were right on track. I felt so guilty giving him the formula today I almost cried. I know his health is the most important thing but I thought I was doing fine. I was proud that my 2year old never touched a single drop of formula, so that make me feel even worse. I'm going to keep breastfeeding and giving formula too until he gains the weight. Then I hope i can stop and he will be healthy.
Ezramomma, ur so not a failure and you are doing fine. Take the guilt out and do what u feel is right for your baby. Like Oprah said on 30 Rock: Too many women are wearing themselves down. Give urself the credit u deserve... I can tell ur a great, loving mom. Good luck!
There are so many issues with feeding your baby, especially since their little digestive systems are so new and still developing. All sorts of issues can come up with breastfeeding, but it doesn't mean that you're not doing a great job with your baby or that you're making a bad choice by supplementing with formula. What makes you a good mom is that you're working with your doctor and doing what's best for your child.
Ezramomma, please don't feel guilty. You are not a failure at all. I would recommend speaking with the lactation consultant where you delivered for advice on how to supplement while continuing to nurse as much as possible. I bet she will have some great tips for you.
When my first child was 2 weeks old, I was at the Lactation Consultants. The LC asked me how my labor and delivery was. Without thinking, I said, "A piece of cake compared to breastfeeding." Another mom in the room immediately said, "I'm so happy to hear someone else say that. For me, this is much harder." Breastfeeding is not easy. My daughter had a strong gag reflex and never really took to breastfeeding well. I felt like a failure and spent many frustrated hours where her and I both cried our eyes. My second and third children took to breastfeeding effortlessly and it was an entirely different experience. I am glad I gave it another try after my experience with my daughter, but I understand how hard it is. It is a learning curve for mom and baby and shouldn't be a horrible situation. While I am a supporter of breastfeeding and its benefits, I could never look down on someone who decides it is not for them.
before my daughter was born i had it in my head i wasn't going to have any medican during delivery and i was going to breast feed no matter how hard it was or how much it hurt and neither worked out. after 23 of my 36 hours of labor i gave in the medican and after 2 weeks of crying every time i knew the baby was getting hungry i gave in to formula it was hard for me i spent meny hours crying about how i was a horrable mom and was doing nothing right for my baby, afer a long talk with my husband i finley came to terms with the fact that its ok to have medican when your in that much pain for that long plus a 4th degree tare and that meny people bottle feed and it is ok and wont harm her.
mommy2mrf, that is an excellent point. Breastfeeding is not easy for many women and am glad you didnt let the first experience set the tone for you. As a dad I support both breast and bottle feeding, but that wasn't always the case. I admit I used to be a big "breast feeding is the best" person. Health benefits, bonding, whole 9 yards. Long story short along comes my daughter and I realize my wife may be able to feed her at will but without a bottle I'll never get a chance to feed her, and I was surprisingly jealous of that. After seeing how bottle feeding gave my wife more free time, didn't affect my daughter's health, and helped me spend bonding time with my daughter, I'm a changed man.
WHAT TO FEED YOUR BABY IS A PERSONAL DECISION..I KNEW I WANTED TO BREASTFEED WHEN I WAS AROUND 6 MONTHS PREGNANT, BUT PEOPLE TOLD ME THAT I HAD SMALL BREASTS AND THAT I WASN'T GOING TO BE ABLE TOO. I GOT DISCOURAGE AND STARTED TO BUY CUTE BABY BOTTLES & WHAT NOT. TO MY SUPRISE, MY SON LATCH ON SOON AFTER HE WAS BORN. MY DOCTOR & NURSE WHERE SUPRISE THAT HE GOT THE HANG OF IT RIGHT AWAY SINCE NEWBORNS DO STRUGGLE FOR A COUPLE DAYS. PEOPLE AROUND ME APOLOGIZED AND REALIZE THAT SMALL BREASTS HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH IT..NOW, THEY MAKE FUN OF ME AN CALL ME A "COW"...SINCE I'M PRODUCING A LOT OF MILK AND I STARTED TO STORE IT IN THE FREEZER..
Proudmommy6, I'm really glad you decided to try despite what everyone was saying. It is always disappointing when we let others make our decisions for us. Way to go! I'm glad it worked out so well!!
I was the same way proudmommy. I'm a "nearly A" and made enough milk to feed the neighborhood. LOL.
I wanted to breastfeed all of my children, however, what we want and what we can do is two different things. My nipples were too big for my first two, tiny babies to latch on so I pumped and gave my milk to them by bottle until I dried up, about six months after they were born. With my new baby I was breastfeeding her just fine until my incision openned up and the doctor put me on very strong antibiotics to combat an infection. So at less than one month the joy of breastfeeding was once again robbed from me and I placed my baby girl on formula. Otherwise, breastfeeding would have been the only choice for me.
I chose to breastfeed, however I haven't gotten the chance to yet! Our son was born 8 weeks early and has not quite managed to mesh the breathing, sucking, and swallowing reflexes. He's being fed pumped breastmilk through a gastric tube and taking a bottle (when he's awake enough to try it).
One thing I will say is that I HATE the breast pump. It doesn't hurt, but it most definately is NOT comfortable and does not feel natural to me. The lactation nurse at the hospital was kind enough to take a look at me and gave me a set of cones that is larger and fits better, but I still dread having to pump every 2-3 hours.
Does anyone have suggestions that might help?
I'm not sure what kind of pump you are using but there are many models and forms available for breast pump. Have you looked into others or spoken with the lactation consultant about your continued discomfort?