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my daughter is a little over 2 months old. her father treats me like crud. i left him while i was pregnant, we were not married,i live with my mom and he hardly comes to see her, and i am better off without him. i know this may be wrong of me to say but maybe your son is better off without his father. just make sure you give him the best life you can.
its really hard to know what to do and i know because im in that same boat. My daughter is 4 days old, me and her father were together thru my whole pregnany. he even came to the hospital after i had her but he was drinking while we were there and i made him leave and i am yet to hear from him. it really hurts becasue he always said he'd be there for us and now he's choosen to leave and be a drunk. I really want to call him but at the same time i don't because i grew up with my father in and out of my life and it hurt me and i dont want to see her go thru that too. so here i am not what to do and just praying that he will call me and say he's ready to change and be there for her i really wish i had the answer for you ut i dont. i don't even have the answer for myself on what to do anymore
I am now eight months pregnant with a little girl. I could not be happier and excited and most all blessed. Her father and I were in what I thought to be the fairy tale relationship, up until the one year mark where things started going downhill before I found out I was expecting. He was the first person I obviously told about my pregnancy, but he also was the first person to turn his back on me which totally blindsided me. He claims to care and want to be involved ,yet he has not been there from day one. He even said he was not going to attend her birth. At this point, no matter how difficult it might be to accept that the one you once fell deeply in love with doesn't have your back, you have to move on. If not for yourself then for your child. Take this as a learning experience and only take the good from it, leave the bad behind. If he wants to be there make it clear to him that he's either in or out not both. He can't get up and leave when he wants to, and come back when he feels like it, at least I will not allow that to happen with my daughter. The best thing you can do right now for yourself and your son is to be as positive as you can be. BE AND FEEL HAPPY NOW!!! You will see that all good things will come once your start doing that.
Hello. I just wanted to say that your story sounds very familiar...I heard that same story about my son the day he was born...he just turned 16 yrs old last week, and we have yet to hear from the "sperm donater". I was also 19 when this happened and I felt the same confusion it seems you are feeling. I never did try to contact him again, and it has turned out for the best. Sometimes it's hard to let people walk away....but God knows whats best for us all and we just have to trust that. If this man walks out of you and your baby's life, then it's probably for the best. I will pray for you and your son that you will be loved, cared for and able to have a wonderful life with or without the father.
Relationships are not easy. It takes a lot of effort on both parts. If you make that effort and your partner fails to do so, it is time to say goodbye. It is much harder said than done, esp. when children are involved. However, the child must come first and is of utmost importance. Your relationship with your partner will directly affect your baby, whether it be positive or negative. If you are constantly fighting, your child may grow to become anxious or depressed. If you are happy and calm, your child will usually mimic that with their growth and development. You are responsible to chose the best possible environment for your child to grow. If that means leaving your partner, then so be it. You are the adult and you know what is best. Of course, a two-parent household is most beneficial, but only when that household is a happy, safe one. If a one-parent household is calmer and safer, then it is the better choice.
I have 2 beautiful girls that turned 1month today and there dad is in jail thank god for my mom cause its hard wit these 2
I understand what you are going through. I have 9 and 6 year old sons. My 9 year old gets to see his dad every other weekend, but that is court ordered. But my 6 year old son has not seen his father in 2 years. He gets really upset because he know that he is there, but doesn't understand why he doesn't want to see him. I was the one that forced the issue of him seeing his son, and now my son is the one that is paying for it. I am glad that my son got to know his father, but I am extremely mad at his father for abandoning him!! If his father doesn't want anything to do with him, then for now your son is better off without his father. It sucks that this is how things have turned out, but in the long run it may be best for your son to not know his father. He has you and that is all that matters!! As long as you have your family and friends, than you are good.
well just to let you ladies know not all us baby daddy's are bad i have my son and he just turned 2 months old his mother gace birth at 25 weeks and left him in the nicu and never looked back he left and came home with me she has not called or came to visit him he is so wonderful it is hard being a singlr dad of a infant at least woman have motherly instincts i just sit worried all the time am i doing this right or what keep your heads up sorry to but in your forum but i couldnt find a single dad forum
i feel you ladies i am a single dad of 2 MONTH OLD BABY mom gave birth and never looked bsck she has not called or visited
Its important right now to concentrate on you and your new baby, although you may have had his son and it may be the most upsetting thing for him not getting in contact with you, you have to realize at an early stage in the child's life what is going to be best for him. You need to find someone who is wiling to bend over backwards for you and your son and love him as his own. Do not get discouraged. This is not your loss it is his, you have the most beautiful gift in this world and he will be missing out. Eventually down the road they realize what they are missing , but you have to stay strong and remember the people who were there to help you , not the person who was there when it was convenient, This is just coming from experience, i had my first son aiden and raised him all by myself until he was 1 and 5 mo old, then i found someone to love me and my son and got married to this individual, so just stay positive and focus on you and your baby everything will be ok.
Sorry to hear about your situation. I hope your son is doing well. I wasnt saying that all fathers are bad, because I know that there are some wonderful fathers out there. And it sounds like you are one of them for stepping up and doing what is right. Im sure you are doing everything right by your son. You already have by taking care of him when he needed you the most.
I was just trying to get opinions on what I should do in my situation. I just can't imagine how a father could not want anything to do with their child and was trying to get some insight into what I should do.
I have somewhat of an idea of what you are going through I am in my last trimester and the father doesn't want a thing to do with his daughter. When I found out that I was pregnant the father and I were broken up and we were both in different relationships. He was still one of the first to know and it broke my heart for him to turn his back on his child. He since then hasn't contacted me throughout the whole pregnancy and i doubt he will afterwards. My opinion is for you to go with your heart, if you really want to know why your sons father isn't in his life then call him or meet up with him one day. If you don't want to know then let it be. I believe that you are a great mom and you are the only one who knows best for your child. Don't second guess yourself! Go with your first instict on this one!
i think u should talk to him... call him once a day make him hear his baby cry.... with a laugh say it baby wants to see his daddy.... as fathers are a role figure.... baby needs both mom and dads love.... share with him what ur baby does like sucking thumb making noises... etc.
a caring and loving mom
dilshad