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I am pregnant with my second child, due in a little over a week. My first child, now 3 1/2, was breeched but we didn't find this out until I was in labor for 17 hours. I stopped dialating so my only option was a c section. This baby is big, at 36 weeks already weighed 7lbs14oz, so my doctors are not suggesting a VBAC which is what I was hoping for.
Since I have found out that I am going to have another c section I have been very anxious about the surgery. I keep having these feelings that something is going to go wrong during the delivery, mostly to myself.
Most of my feelings are that if something happens to me my children, mostly the 3 1/2 year old, will not remember me. I know these feelings are more than likely not necessary and c sections are becoming more common than they used to be.
Just wondering if anyone else has ever had these type of feelings and if you have any suggestions on how to get past the dread of undergoing another surgery? My husband is very understanding and supportive, but he's a man and he's not going through this. It usually keeps me up at night, which as you know isn't good since I'm not sleeping very much anyway.
Thanks for the help
I'm in the same boat as you...my 2nd pregnancy at 36 weeks est to be 8 lbs. Repeat C-Section in 2.5 weeks. Worried but trying not to over think everything. Try to preoccupy yourself with enjoying quiet and fun time with your 3 1/2 yr old and enjoy every moment with your family up until the date. You must put your trust in the process and your healthcare provider. Know that this is the best option for both of you. Best of luck to you!!!
I so understand your anxiety, Alsblum, especially with your new baby so close to joining the world. Was your first C-section an especially negative experience for you? That could be at the heart of some of your concern. After being in labor for so long before finding out that there was a complication with your baby and you'd have to have emergency surgery is very scary. It could be that your body is remembering that traumatic time and kicking your fears into overtime.
My advice would be to relax and trust in your doctor's advice and judgement. Having another C-section may not be the ideal way you want to have this baby, but the experience will be much more positive for you both the more comfortable you are before the big day. Every birth experience is different, and I think knowing what's going to happen before going into the delivery room may take a lot of the fear out of the experience for you.
Try to focus on the wonderful outcome of the surgery in these days before your new baby's arrival, as well as all of the other positives in your life. This, too, may offer you comfort and help push those fears away.
I agree with the other post. I had a c-section with my daughter and early on in this pregnancy my doctor was very supportive of a VBAC. I just had my 20 week ultrasound and he's a bit less supportive now. He said the size of the baby is going to be a major factor in that. Anyway, it's best not to worry about things and try to stay occupied with other activities. I was very anxious before my first c-section and was really hoping to avoid one this time. Now I'm starting to accept that it may happen.
At least yours will be a planned one this time. I'm sure it was rough being in labor for that long and then undergoing surgery too. Good Luck! I'm sure everything will be fine.
Thanks for all the advice. I eases my mind to know that others are going through this also. I just went to the dr today and I will be scheduled for my c section on the 19th. They said that if I really wanted to try for a VBAC that I probably could but if anything went crazy they would immediately perform a c section. But I had already accepted the fact of the repeat c section. I don't want to risk any complications to myself or the baby and think this is the best option.
Thanks again for the support, I really appreciate it.
Oh sweetie, it'll be ok. I had an emergency section with my first now 5 because his heart rate dropped right before they were about to take me off the monitors ans send me home! That was a nightmare! I'm having my 3rd section in exactly 4 weeks if he can manage to stay that long, but honestly the only thing to worry about is the incision. If they can use the same incision point as the first section you'll heal faster and won't be nearly as painful because its already numb. :-) I wasn't that lucky with my second because I had grown so much in between my 2 boys that my doc would have cut through my bladder if she used the first incision so I got 2 major surgeries. THANK GOD she can use the one she made the last time, otherwise I think I'd be a bit more anxious than I am. It's such an easy going thing being planned rather than the emergeant section from your first. You go to the hosp before the sun is up, LOL, get into the gown, get put on the monitors and get your catheter and iv's put in. Wait for the anesthesiologist to get to you and either get your epidural or spinal and get ready to be carted off to the O.R. Dad or whomever is going in with you if allowed will get their set of scrubs to change into and meet you in the room at some point, and you'll all await the first cries of that beautiful baby inside. Be ready for your tears to try and drown you, LOL that was the worst for me having to be in the crucified pose at my hospital I couldn't wipe my eyes and the tears were EVERYWHERE I was drying my ears for a day, it was awful LOL. Funny but awful. Talk to whoever you can, it's the only thing that takes your mind off of whats going on. I'm REALLY friendly with my doctor and it got to the point where she had to stop because we were laughing so hard and absolutely nothing. But it helped because it's only a short little surgery to begin with from start to finish MAYBE 20 minutes. The biggest part that made me anxious was actually at the very beginning when they poke you to see if you are numb yet. It's like you feel the pressure but not the actual point. It's hard to describe and can be tricky when you are ready because I couldn't describe what I was feeling because it's so HARD to describe what you ARE feeling. Good luck, I hope this didn't make you more anxious. and sweetie, GOD FORBID anything happen to you, you're 3.5 year old will remember you more than anyone will ever be able to believe, because you ARE mommy! Good luck hun.
alsblum- I'm glad you feel better. It is also nice to hear that your doctor will stand by you if you want to try a VBAC.
Have you had your baby yet? I hope everything went ok, please let us know when you get the time .
I understand your fears, I felt very similar during my wifes pregnancy. I kept fearing something would go wrong with one of them - or both of them! But I trusted that she knew what to do, and that our doctors would be with us the entire way. Thankfully everything went smoothly, but I will never forget that feeling either...
I had my son today at 8:11 am Samuel Ryan
he weighed 9 lbs 6 oz and is 21 in long
everything went ok. I kind of panicked during the surgery but made it through ok.
Right now my son is having oxygen given to him because he has some fluid in his lungs, they told me that sometimes happens to c section babies since the fluid does not be squeezed out of them during delivery.
Thanks for all your support and help, it really helped me calm down before the surgery. I guess just having someone to vent to helped a lot.