Toddlers

Re: babies close together.

Lovefamily6 — Sat, 30 Jun 2012 14:35:05 GMT

Congrats. I am so glad that things went well.

Re: babies close together.

Brinny — Sat, 30 Jun 2012 12:06:20 GMT

Congrats! i'n glad all has turned out well for you.

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mombuitrago — Sat, 30 Jun 2012 00:53:39 GMT

Hi Everyone,

I am sorry I have not replied. I have been busy with my new baby that was born sooner than expected. I was given the original date of July 12. About two weeks ago the date changed to July 4. My baby girl decided to be born sooner than that June 23, 2012. It has been a interesting and hard on my 20 month old to adjust over night. She means well she likes her baby sister but she does not understand she can not hold her to tight in the same manner she holds her babies(toys). Plus my 20 month old is super energetic and my new born is very laid back. But thanks everyone for the advice it has been helpful. I am just taking it a day at time. My 20 month old has been caught with the babies bottle, and pacifier lol.

Re: babies close together.

Lovefamily6 — Tue, 26 Jun 2012 13:35:27 GMT

I am glad that things are getting better. I think the animals are a great idea. Mine are 5, 3, 2 and 4 months. When we found out about our 4th we would ask our daughter all the time are you ready for a sister? Her answer was always NO!! Now that the baby is here she is like another mother. My son who is 2 is a bit aggressive with the baby, but she is a tough girl. Babies are stronger than you think. :) With our 2 year old we try and let him hug her and hold her, with help. We try to explain that babies are little and we have to be sweet. Also know that a lot of times they are not tring to be mean they just want them to play and they might not understand that they are being rough. Showing them how to be gentle helps. Keep us up dated on how things are going. Wish you nothing but the best. When are you due?

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PediNurseJulie1 — Tue, 26 Jun 2012 06:31:38 GMT

Lovefamily6-good advice! Hopefully you and Mombuitrago can help each other out! :-)

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Jess_BabyRN — Tue, 26 Jun 2012 03:01:04 GMT

mombuitrago-

I am so glad to hear that things are going well for you and your children. I hope that you will keep us in the loop as the date of birth draws near.

Thinking of you and family!

-Jess

Re: babies close together.

Lovefamily6 — Sun, 24 Jun 2012 23:42:34 GMT

My closest are 13 months apart so I undertand. Make what you do with the new baby fun. Ask your middle to help. Have them get bottles, blankets, toys ect... Make sure that you still make good time for your middle child so that they know you have not forgotten them. It is hard at first but it gets better.

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mombuitrago — Thu, 14 Jun 2012 00:51:37 GMT

So far I has gotten better. I have been using her stuff animals as babies and she does tend to hold them different now that i tell her they are her babies. We will see if a few weeks how it all turns out.

Re: babies close together.

Jess_BabyRN — Wed, 13 Jun 2012 23:07:01 GMT

mombuitrag-

Its been a bit since you posted and I wanted to see if you have further thoughts or questions. Let us know how we can support you!

-Jess

Re: babies close together.

Brinny — Tue, 12 Jun 2012 16:36:48 GMT

well for my family my brother, sisters and i relied more on each other than our parents. They would get season tickets to the indianapolis zoo and childrens museum as an inexpensive thing to do throughout the summer... we did tons of outdoor activities like baseball.... (we could almost make a full team on out own). As a parent i know i'd feel awful if i couldn't spend as much time with my children as i felt i should, but being one of 10 i know that children are very resilient and will start to depend on each other for extra support if needed. That's not to say that one on one time with parents won't go a long way though.

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AnswerDad03 — Tue, 12 Jun 2012 15:40:56 GMT

I have three daughters and they are all withing 3 1/2 years. The key for us is that we always try to have special days where we take one of them alone with us to dinner or to a special place to play etc. Somehow children manage to adapt. We worried like you, but they seem to be able to cope on their own when it's impossible for us to show them all individual attention. Not sure how parents with 10 or 12 kids are able to do it though!

Re: babies close together.

MommyRN4 — Mon, 11 Jun 2012 14:57:03 GMT

Just wanted to check in with you to see when you are due?

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PediNurseJulie1 — Mon, 11 Jun 2012 06:33:03 GMT

Just to echo what other people have said - the baby doll idea is a great one. Have her do the same tasks as you with her baby doll. Get some books from the library and begin introducing the idea of a new baby at home and how you treat it. With some coaching and reinforcement, I think you'll be able to control how she responds to the baby more or less. Congrats on your third!

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Brinny — Sun, 10 Jun 2012 13:10:10 GMT

I'm sure you'll do fine with making sure you spend equal amounts of time with your children and showing them you love them. I come from a HUGE family... I have 6 brothers and 3 sisters if you can imagine it. somehow my parents managed to juggle all of us. most of us are pretty close together. the closest being me and my little sister. we're 13 months apart, and best friends. I'm sure everything is going to work out just fine, it's one of those things you kind of figure out as you go.

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MommyRN4 — Sat, 09 Jun 2012 21:15:48 GMT

When the baby is born, make sure you take the time to spend with your middle child. Let her know that you love how big she is getting and how independent she is! Then make sure you get her involved with her little sister's care. Make a big deal about how special it is to be a big sister and let her put lotion on the baby's feet, pick out her clothes for the day etc. You can also get her a "big sister" gift....the best one is a real life feeling baby doll. Then you can play "baby" with her and let her know that you are both "mommies" ! She may like that type of bonding with you....Good luck!