Toddlers

Re: Getting Rid of the Pacifier Once and For All—Help!

Brinny — Mon, 18 Mar 2013 01:57:54 GMT

Oh i highly suggest not waiting much longer. It took hazel a week to get over not having it, and longer to get her to sleep through the night without it. sometimes she still tries to suck on the ears of her hippo i think for comfort. it has taken a while to get her back into a bedtime routine, but i think i've finally got her back to where she was before i got rid of all the pacifiers.. it's taken 2 months.

Re: Getting Rid of the Pacifier Once and For All—Help!

MommyRN4 — Sun, 17 Mar 2013 21:54:59 GMT

Thanks for all your advice! I am going to just have to do it! It seems like his addiction is getting worse some days!

Re: Getting Rid of the Pacifier Once and For All—Help!

Kmerino — Sun, 10 Mar 2013 21:09:21 GMT

I have 3 children. I have a 7 year old, a 4 year old, and a 3 month old. When my 7 year old was 2 he was very attached to his pacifier. I don't have a picture of him without it in his mouth. I know that this is going to sound really harch but seriously you are just hurting the child more than yourself. There are 2 ways that taking this a way can be accomplished. If the child is old enough than you could do the Binky Fairy. Basiclly you tell them that there pacifiers are going to all the babies that need them and you both collect all the pacifiers. After collected you get rid of them and to help your child cope with this you buy them a little present that the Binky Fairy left for them because they gave up there pacifiers.

The second way of getting rid of them is just throwing them away and telling the child just they are too old. My friend did this and replaced the pacifiers with Big Kid Cups and Bowls. She also went through what I am about to decribe below.

The hardest part is staying strong and not giving in. YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!

I am not going to lie to you the first night when my son didn't have his binky he cryed going to bed. I would go in and rub his back and just speak with him in a low tone. It does make bedtime a bit longer but it is going to be worth it in the long run. When you are going through this process make sure that you do it when your mate is home also. You will need a break and this way you don't feel as though you are the only onw going through this. Trust me it is more trumatizing to you than the child. You have got to keep telling yourself that he\she does not need this he wants it and for his\her overall heath it is better for the child. The second night was some of the same but not as long just went in rubbed his back a bit and he feel asleep. By night three he was just fine. It is the first inital shock but they will be fine. My son is now 7 in the 2nd grade and a very well adjusted child. I think it is more traumatizing to us the parents because they are crying and we know that if we just give so they will stop " hurting". They are not hurt they are just upset because they can not get what they want. Stay strong and I hope that you and your child can get over come this soon.

Re: Getting Rid of the Pacifier Once and For All—Help!

remylim — Thu, 07 Mar 2013 10:34:59 GMT

My little girl did not even try to use pacifier.

Re: Getting Rid of the Pacifier Once and For All—Help!

MommyRN4 — Sun, 03 Mar 2013 04:52:25 GMT

Cutting the tips off is a good idea. I might try that! I hope things get better Brinny!

Re: Getting Rid of the Pacifier Once and For All—Help!

Jess_BabyRN — Sun, 03 Mar 2013 04:17:49 GMT

Wow, Garyg7133 i would have never thought of that! Makes them not work quite the same, and I can see why he gave up. Very creative!

-Jess

Re: Getting Rid of the Pacifier Once and For All—Help!

garyg7133 — Sat, 02 Mar 2013 11:57:13 GMT

Our son would take 6 of them to bed with him. He liked to hold them and had 1 in mouth when he went to sleep. When we decided to remove the binks from the equation, we just cut the tips off. They were awkward in his mouth and he gave up after about a minute of trying each one. No tears, no screaming.

Re: Getting Rid of the Pacifier Once and For All—Help!

Brinny — Thu, 07 Feb 2013 14:09:37 GMT

We finally took Hazels Pacifier away 6 days ago. She only wanted it when she slept and usually dropped it as soon as she was out. But I have not had a full nights sleep since. she does well for the first 4 hours, but then wakes up crying every 20 minutes after. i hope it doesn't last much longer.

Re: Getting Rid of the Pacifier Once and For All—Help!

MommyRN4 — Thu, 07 Feb 2013 04:30:06 GMT

Those are some great ideas!!!! I especially love the binky fairy ideas and the idea of mailing his pacifier to other children!! Although he is super attached at the moment, we have managed to wean him down to just using it at night to sleep and for nap time. I will just have to take the plunge and remove it though..I think I am dreading it more than him!

Re: Getting Rid of the Pacifier Once and For All—Help!

Tinkerbellmomma — Sat, 02 Feb 2013 16:31:28 GMT

Every child is different to how they get rid of a soothing item. My daughter is 2 and loved to have her "nook" (that's what she called it). I started to notice not to long ago that instead of sucking on it she was biting them. And I don't me clenching her teeth, I mean literally making huge holes and then ripping them in half. When I felt that her doing that was not only pointless use of the passie, but also dangerous I would take the top half that she bit off and give her the open part (with supervision). She noticed that the passie wasn't the same and I just threw them away without her looking. Nighttime was my first fear because that was when she wanted it the most. Sticking to her usual bedtime ritual of a bath, one cartoon, and a warm cup of milk, she fell right asleep. I just thought I got lucky that night but as nights went on and she continued to not ask for it I knew right there that she had dumped the "nook" for good. I have a 10 month old, but never gave him a passie which helped in a sense because if he didn't have one for her to see, she wouldn't think about having one. (Plus she would just take his anyway) Now that one small thing is out of the way I'm now working on potty training her before #3 gets here in June. I suggest you just let your son find his own time to get rid of it. Trust me, it'll most likely be sooner then later. Hope my pacifier story helps!

Re: Getting Rid of the Pacifier Once and For All—Help!

Four2Many — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 15:06:25 GMT

My son was 18 months when my SISTER intervened. I just had a hard time taking it because he liked it so much (he only used it for naps and sleeping at night). If it fell out while he was sleeping, he wouldn't wake--he only needed it to fall asleep. Anyway, she came over one day and told him that he didn't need it anymore. She took it and told him to take his nap. That was that. He never saw the pacifier again, and didn't complain much. I think the fact that someone other than mommy took it helped GREATLY! Even if your son is traumatized for a while--believe me, it will be okay in the long run. It is only temporary--and next year, you will have something completely different to worry about! LOL.

Re: Getting Rid of the Pacifier Once and For All—Help!

AnswerDad03 — Wed, 02 Jan 2013 20:28:12 GMT

Kids adjust... there may be a rocky night or two, but cold turkey should do the trick in a short time.

Re: Getting Rid of the Pacifier Once and For All—Help!

Brinny — Sat, 22 Dec 2012 16:33:54 GMT

At Hazels dr appointment yesterday i was told by her doctor to start weaning her off the passifier over the next couple months so she'll be off them by the time she reaches a year old. Some of suggestions she made was to only offer them at certain times of the day like nap and bed time at first then just bed time after a few weeks and then work on not giving them at all. another suggestion is cutting off the tips of the nipple so they are less satisfying to suck on or just going cold turkey and throwing them away all together.

Re: Getting Rid of the Pacifier Once and For All—Help!

PediNurseJulie1 — Sat, 22 Dec 2012 08:31:36 GMT

Brinny remembered my little boy's situation perfectly. :-) I just explained that other babies need it more than he did and I had him "mail" them in a package. Later he found a new little toy in the mailbox. I honestly found that it was me that needed to really get rid of them so that I didn't have the temptation to give them back! When push came to shove, he managed to get rid of it easier than I thought he would. Hope it goes well!

Re: Getting Rid of the Pacifier Once and For All—Help!

Jess_BabyRN — Sat, 22 Dec 2012 00:46:57 GMT

I think of binkis as a "self soothing" tool that kids use for just that. So, it's often really helpful to trade for a different self soothing tool. I know kids that have traded for a blanket, stuffed animal, or learning to rock themselves to sleep.

-Jess