Pregnancy

Baby shower a good idea?

sammylouise52 — Tue, 21 May 2013 03:59:41 GMT

My parents, boyfriend and work all are now aware that I am pregnant, although I am only 19. I am at six months and starting to wonder if a baby shower is an appropriate thing. I really do not know how to approach my mom with the topic. She has accepted my pregnancy but I'm still unsure if this is appropriate or not. I have bought a pretty good amount of clothes and such myself so I really do not know what to do right now. Help?

Tips and tricks for comfort!

PediNurseJulie1 — Wed, 22 May 2013 15:51:19 GMT

Pregnancy can be a pretty uncomfortable time of life – especially as you get towards the end of it! I relied on my body pillow to stay comfortable in bed and keep my hips from hurting so much. I also gave up on shoes that required lacing or zipping (boots) and just lived in slip on shoes! What ways did you find to keep yourself comfortable with your pregnancy? - Julie, StrongMoms Facilitator

Just wanna talk.

MomsRulez — Mon, 07 May 2012 20:40:20 GMT

Ive been on here before gotten many questions answered and its awesome. But now im just kinda looking for someone to talk to. I have friends so im not completely alone but they work threw the week on third shift. So i just kinda want a friend who is also a mom. I have a yahoo and skype. Im 19 and this is my first time being pregnant. So just reply back if ya want....Thanks :-)

Dealing with Morning Sickness

MommyRN4 — Tue, 14 May 2013 16:50:03 GMT

How did you deal with morning sickness? Did you find something to help you get through it? Share your tips here to help other newly pregnant moms get through their first trimester of morning sickness! - Bonnie, StrongMoms Facilitator

Hello Everyone

Ethereal31 — Fri, 17 May 2013 11:06:06 GMT

I signed up about a month ago. I currently have four children the youngest being almost 4 months old. She was born January 24, 2013. I just found out on Mother's Day that I will be expecting number 5 in January of 2014. Quite a shock, but I am still super excited. Didn't expect them to be so close together.

morning sickness

missy878787 — Mon, 13 May 2013 15:16:29 GMT

took 4 home pregnancy and all are positive! so excited. now with my first i had all day morning sickness with this one i have it really bad right now and the only thing that works is laying down. i have tried all the remedies i have read about and things like that i am just trying to c what has helped any of u pregnant mommies out there? is there anything i missed? and i really dont want to take any meds for it.

Close to Delivering

Ndavis1216 — Tue, 14 May 2013 13:02:03 GMT

Hey ladies,

I am due on July 5th having a baby girl, I already have a 3 yr son. I am very nervous about delivering, my son was a breeze I started having contractions with him at 12pm and had him at 2pm but for some reason I think this pregnancy is going to go the total opposite. I can't sleep just thinking about how labor might be. Any ideas or suggestions?

Sickness at work

clarkf — Mon, 13 May 2013 19:42:29 GMT

So I work 3rd shift. My morning sickness is from about 1030pm-230am.

So the first half of my shift is miserable. I don't throw up, but I'm very nausious(sp). I haven't told my boss(s) bc I'm only about 7 weeks. 3rd shift was the only thing they had available so I don't want them to cut my hours or anything. Any suggestions on how to help? or if I should eat a couple hours before my shift? idk any suggestions, I've thought about telling them, but I really want to wait.

I haven't tried crackers, but I was thinking about it. Do they really help?

Epidural or No?

MyBabyJuneBug13 — Fri, 22 Feb 2013 17:47:47 GMT

I am 24 weeks pregnant and feel like the weeks are flying by. As i get further and further along the more worried about labor. I really wanna try and go all natural, and everybody thinks im crazy... This is my first baby, so I have never had labor pains or anything. Another thing, i HATE needles.... so thats influencing my decision ALOT, but also i dont wanna be numb after, and i wanna be out of that hospital as soon as possible. I need some help, i have read about epidurals and different pain relief things, but i need some personal stories instead of the facts. Reading about it online and hearing it from someone who has gone through it are two totally different things!! HELP :)

Help with ALL day sickness...

BB1021 — Fri, 03 May 2013 20:21:28 GMT

Hi there!

I am 7-8 weeks pregnant and am having "morning" sickness ALL day long. I consatantly feel sick to my stomach and just plain like I have a really bad hangover that never goes away. I have tried eating ginger snaps, eating crackers ect...but nothing seems to help. Does anyone have any other suggestions or things that helped you get over feeling yucky during your pregnancy? Thanks in advance for your help! :)

When do you tell Your Boss that you are Pregnant?

MommyRN4 — Fri, 03 May 2013 01:21:30 GMT

I always waited till I was 12 weeks pregnant to tell my employers that I was expecting, but my friend waited until she began to really show. How long did you wait to tell your boss that you were pregnant? How did he or she react? --Bonnie, Strongmoms facilitator

Did you get an Epidural or did you go Natural?

MommyRN4 — Fri, 10 May 2013 12:57:22 GMT

I never did quite make it through labor without an epidural, and I admire anyone who managed to get through it naturally. Did you get an epidural or go natural? -- Bonnie, StrongMoms Facilitator

Baby Revealing Parties –Did you have one?

MommyRN4 — Tue, 23 Apr 2013 15:46:03 GMT

I have had 5 children now and we didn't really make a big deal out of telling people the gender of our babies. We just called family members and told them after the ultrasound--now, there are these baby revealing parties and cakes! I feel like I missed out or something….did you have a baby revealing party? -- Bonnie, StrongMoms Facilitator

i just found out, now how do i tell my husband

kam4230 — Fri, 12 Apr 2013 05:36:20 GMT

I just found out that i 14 weeks pregnant. My husband is 12 years older than me and said being over 45 he didnt want anymore children, but at the same time he sees a baby and said dont you want another one, i always thought he was joking and i used to say no. My husband just recently retired from the military and got a job offer and he began working a month ago the bad news is that it is 3 hours away, i still have my job and i wanted my 12 year old son to finish school before we moved, now the hard part, how do i tell my husband im pregnant when he is 3 hours away and not expecting the news. Any ideas.

Husband Blues...

indigochild2 — Mon, 22 Apr 2013 17:31:30 GMT

HI Everyone! This is my first day and post on the site! I want to say hello and hope to become part of your community. My post may be kind of weird but please let me know what you all think.

I am in my 7th week of pregnancy (yes, I found out very early b/c we have been trying for a while and I was too in tune with my body) and I suffer from morning sickness from the time I wake up to the time I go to sleep. I am miserable. I have been very mean to my husband and it is affecting him a lot. We are to the point that we argue a lot and he stays away from me and I stay away from him. I told him that I want to make him as miserable as I am. He thinks I am cruel, mean, unrealistic and evil for wanting him to feel that way. How can I suck up these harmful feelings I have and try to turn this experience more positive for the both of us?

rolling with the punches (and kicks)

Tinkerbellmomma — Sun, 21 Apr 2013 19:09:59 GMT

so im 30 weeks with my third and i am getting the worst of the movements phase. my lo is way more active then my first 2 and boy does it feel like i have a kick boxer in there. her movements are so rough and painful that i feel like she left some brusing on my ribs and belly. tell me moms, what does your babys movements feel like?

Favorite part of pregnancy

PediNurseJulie1 — Tue, 26 Feb 2013 14:00:33 GMT

What is your favorite part of being pregnant? I know there are lots of difficult aspects of it but I thought maybe we could focus on those parts we enjoy! I, for one, enjoy the excitement and love of family and friends as they await a new little one with me. It’s such a wonderful bonding time! -- Julie, StrongMoms Facilitator

Any suggestions to parents who are having twins?

Twinplus2Mama — Fri, 12 Apr 2013 02:10:13 GMT

Any suggestions on new parents that are pregnant to twins?

I'm pregnant and my boyfriend wants me to get an abortion. Help

kkis4ever — Sun, 14 Apr 2013 04:27:52 GMT

I want to apologize right off the bat if I write too much. I am about 8 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend does not want the baby. I on the other hand will not even consider an abortion. I have a blood disease and I honestly feel blessed to even be pregnant. I told him that I was and he was so nervous. His first response was, " I'm not ready to be a dad" that was it. I felt so alone. After 2 weeks my mom called and I left her on speaker so my boyfriend could hear how upset my mom was that I was even considering getting an abortion. So, after the phone call ended he sat quiet for a few minutes and finally said, " I don't want to be the bad guy. I'm not ready to be a dad, but what do you want. Honestly." I had already told him the previous weeks what I wanted and cried constantly knowing I'd be getting an abortion just for him. I told him I wanted to have the baby and he took a deep breath. I told him he wouldn't have to worry he would be gone 6 months right after the baby was born. (He's military and will be deploying) He started to actually tear up and told me he wanted to be there for his child. I was so excited. We started talking about how my family and his family would be so excited, baby stuff, and about setting up a doctors appointment. I had already told my family and he hadn't. So, a week went by and I was living in the bliss of being pregnant. I reminded him to call his parents and to not put it off any longer because he had stopped talking about the baby and didn't really say much about it. So, he called and I went upstairs since I was little afraid to hear what they would say. He came back upstairs about half an hour later and I could see he had been crying. He kept shaking his head saying " I tried and I'm not ready to be a dad" he kept repeating that and I cried instantly. My sister booked me a flight home and I was gone within 2 hours. I couldn't be there anymore living in that guilt.I can only hope this gives him time to think. I told him I am not getting rid of the baby. I feel so alone and depressed. I have no idea what to do or how to feel about being pregnant. I can only pray that he comes back around and gets emotional and excited about having the like he did before. I know a lot of it was his dad influencing him. I could really just use some good company and nice people to talk to. Nothing negative please. I am so sorry I wrote so much and for any typos. I'm using my phone and just want to post this ASAP. Thank you so much again.

how to tell my boss im pregnant

kam4230 — Fri, 12 Apr 2013 05:49:16 GMT

I recently found out that i was pregnant and telling my boss that i was pregnant and relocating with my husband seemed like a relief. Before i told my boss she told me that she stepped down as store manager and thought that our DM would automatically make me manager because i was already the asst. Mgr. That didnt happen but now they want to train me and fly me out to corporate for more training. I really wanted and deserved this promotion, but now how do i tell them that im pregnant and oh by the way i will be resigning in a few months anyway so i can relocate to be with my husband. I still need my job and im scared of what will happen when i tell them. Any ideas

new here

dgupton25 — Wed, 27 Mar 2013 15:24:15 GMT

Hello everyone I'm new here, I'm 34 weeks today and I'm excited how is everyone doing?

Will my boyfriend come around to the idea that I am pregnant?

CutiePatutie415 — Thu, 11 Apr 2013 22:04:46 GMT

I am 34 and my boyfriend is 33; we have been together for a year and a half and we are both professionals. Our relationship is very loving, although we do have some volatile fights and at times, his temperament can be very difficult. I truly believe that we are in love and we have been talking about our future for nearly a year now, including marriage and possibly having children, although we were honest with each other that children may not be something that either of us would definitely want. Well, I found out about a week ago that I am five weeks pregnant. We were not using protection, as I have a large uterine polyp that I was supposed to have removed next month, due to the fact that it would potentially make it difficult for me to conceive in the future. My doctor called it 'built in birth control'. Anyway, I have never been pregnant before so I really thought this polyp was preventing that from happening. I was completely shocked to find out that I am expecting and when I told my boyfriend, at first, he was very supportive and very excited. He told me not to worry about anything and that he would take care of us. When I asked if he wanted to consider abortion, he said absolutely not, given our age and that we already planned to get married at some point. His reaction really made me feel safe and I was so grateful to him for that. We agreed that we would be legally married before the baby comes (his idea) and postpone having a wedding ceremony until later, when there was time to plan it. However, when we decided how to tell my very conservative parents, I told him I thought it was best that we be engaged first because I know that is so important to them and is the only way they will support us and this child. At first he agreed, then a few days later things completely changed, he told me that I was pressuring him to get married and that it's not fair that I do this to him and that I am not giving him a choice in the matter. Then he told me that he didn't really want this baby, he never really wanted any children and that if it was an option, he would want me to consider abortion. Now, he is not speaking to me and I am just trying to give him space to process everything, but I am wondering if this guy is gonna bolt on me. I know we never knew if we wanted children, but we talked about the fact that this could happen and always said we would take responsibility for it. I am hoping he is just still in shock or just scared. He lost his father 4 months ago and I know he is emotionally drained, but I have feeling 'pregnant and alone' and I never imagined I would be a single mother. Any thoughts from anyone who has had a man change his feeling about your pregnancy and tell you he no longer wants it?

Nursery Themes

PediNurseJulie1 — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 22:01:13 GMT

I always see so many cute nursery ideas in catalogs and in stores. It seems like are tons of great options for décor these days. Share how you decorated your baby’s room and where you got your materials! -- Julie, StrongMoms Facilitator

Twin mom to be..very nervous and overwhelmed..HELP!!

newmommy2twins — Wed, 10 Apr 2013 16:39:16 GMT

Hello, Im new to this and yesterday I just found out im having twins!!!!! I have two older children as well who are 4 and 6. I was hesitant about the third and then i thought why not,lets do it. Then we found out were having twins!!!! Im shocked and in disbelief and have no clue about twins at all. Please if anyone has any helpful hints, strategies, advice or just info on twins pregnancy and raising i would really appreciate it. I just ordered 3 books so i can start reading up on this. thank you in advance:)

Pregnancy clothes that fit can be hard to find

MommyRN4 — Wed, 13 Mar 2013 00:31:11 GMT

It is hard to look great when you are pregnant—especially when your belly keeps growing and changing. How did you find pregnancy clothes that fit and looked good on you? Did you have to spend a lot of money or did you find some great bargains? --Bonnie, Strongmoms facilitator