Pregnancy

Re: 19, pregnant, and scared...

MissPammie — Tue, 26 Feb 2013 22:20:59 GMT

First, congratulations on your new baby! Second, it's okay to be scared. You are right, you should tell your family sooner rather than later. You should also tell them about your boyfriend. They may not react bad. If they do, remember that it is your decision (about the baby and him). I think they will be happy for you, they should be. They also may worry less or something if they know you are in a relationship. Also, if you tell them you are pregnant you will have support. Support is a great thing to have when you are pregnant.

Re: 19, pregnant, and scared...

sparklenshine — Mon, 25 Feb 2013 14:55:55 GMT

I am glad you and your mom are becoming so close!!!! You sound like you are going to do fantastic! if it makes you feel any better, i'm 27, married, divorced and with a 6 year old.... just found out i'm pregnant with my second child and i was still scared to death to tell my parents! Everything will be fine. There is a reason that this is happening now and not later on down the road. You're going to do great!!!! :) congratulations on your little jellybean!!!!!!

Re: 19, pregnant, and scared...

momiof122 — Mon, 25 Feb 2013 03:40:12 GMT

madi,

I am a first time mom as well. I'm not only married, but we planned for our baby. Even though we planned, I ended up feeling like a single parent! I'm the only one who takes care of the baby and does everything for him, including buying diapers. My husband pops in every now and then to see how we're doing and talk to our son. I have no help at all. This isn't how I wanted things to go, but that's how they're going. My point is, you may think you cant do it alone, but believe me, you'll find the strength to. The first weeks are the HARDEST, that's because you have to get into a routine and get used to all the changes. Get AS MUCH sleep as possible!!!! Sleep EVERYTIME the baby sleeps, even when you're not tired. You'll need it!!!! I'm by no means trying to scare you. I just want to try and prepare you! You might end up raising your precious gift alone. But its all sooo worth it!!! When your baby looks at you for comfort and security, your heart is going to melt!!! I really do wish you the best! I hope I didn't come off negative! Congratulations on your precious bundle of joy!!! I wish you and your little peanut the very best!!!

Re: 19, pregnant, and scared...

NewMommyMadi — Mon, 25 Feb 2013 00:50:45 GMT

i love the never ending support from everyone and i think it is time for an update! lolz since i have told my family things been great. my mother and i haven't been this close since i was ten. my boyfriend and i looking into tying knot when we can afford it. we have been through a lot but things have been looking up. the final count down is here and with only a couple of weeks left i am so excited and i feel soooo unprepared! but that is normal and i couldn't be happier. just waiting for my little jellybean to arrive. :)

Re: 19, pregnant, and scared...

MyBabyJuneBug13 — Fri, 22 Feb 2013 19:07:01 GMT

Hi Madi, Congrats on your pregnancy!!! :) i am also 19 expecting my first baby. i know exactly what you are going through. i was sooo scared to tell my family. the only difference was they knew about tyler. i thought they were going to be mad and hate me, i stressed about it for 3 months. when i told them, their reaction was nothing like i expected. they were dissapointed, but extremely happy about their first grandbaby and have been there for me, and have been a great support group. looking back stressing about it for so long wasnt worth it. it wasnt good for me or the baby. your family is always going to be your family, they will always love you. they might be mad for awhile, but most likely you will be suprised by their reaction. and it isnt good for you to stress about it and put it off! totally normal to be scared, everybody gets scared i think. hopefully everything goes well for you!!! thinking about you :) keep us posted. -Amber

Re: 19, pregnant, and scared...

NonaGrrl — Thu, 13 Dec 2012 11:29:49 GMT

Madi, I am so happy things have worked out for you. Nothing is better than having the support of your family. Wish mine lived closer so I wouldn't feel so alone.

Re: 19, pregnant, and scared...

BrieLyon — Thu, 06 Dec 2012 13:14:21 GMT

Madi.

I am 23 years old and about to have my 3rd child. Needless to say, after this one, I'm done. I was 19 when I had my first, would have been a junior in college but had to leave college for a semester because I was 7 months pregnant and wasn't going to give birth in my college town. I was terrified, but my parents and my husband helped me through it. We now have 2 beautiful children, 4 years and 8 months. While I would have liked to wait for my third child until my second was out of diapers, every child is a blessing. I know its hard. But you'll get through it!

Brie.

Re: 19, pregnant, and scared...

shellybean21 — Wed, 05 Dec 2012 16:31:11 GMT

Madi i now excalty what your going through im 19 and my boyfriend is a whole lot older than me. The way i told my family is by telling them that i love him and he loves me and that we make each other happy. After i got pregnant and found out that out that our son had trisomy 18 an would not make it to his 1 birthday. He stayed with me through out everything. Even at 34 weeks when i went into labor and our son didnt make it. he stayed and now my family love him. So if they love you they well respect your decision. I hope everything works out for you hope your baby is happy and health.

sincerly,

Michele

Re: 19, pregnant, and scared...

Serenity1006 — Wed, 05 Dec 2012 13:33:28 GMT

glad to hear all the good news! its a blessing that your support has become strong esp at this time in your pregnancy! Glad to hear that this forum has been a great place for you! Wishing you nothing but lots of love and happiness!

Re: 19, pregnant, and scared...

PediNurseJulie1 — Wed, 05 Dec 2012 04:18:11 GMT

Madi - I am literally smiling and just so happy to get that update. You are doing so well, it seems, and things are coming together for the birth of your baby - such a momentous day in your life. Things will be hard sometimes and life as a mommy has its fair share of tears and frustrations but your little girl will be the greatest joy you will know. You are going to be a great mom - so glad for you and your fiance. :-)

Re: 19, pregnant, and scared...

AnswerDad03 — Fri, 30 Nov 2012 01:09:10 GMT

So great to hear Madi! Becoming closer to your mother because of your soon to be born little girl is great to hear! She is already making your life better!

Re: 19, pregnant, and scared...

NewMommyMadi — Thu, 29 Nov 2012 21:39:01 GMT

I just wanted to give you all a quick update.

I am now almost 24 weeks along. And I have found a great midwife center where I will be doing a water birth and I am so excited to be able to go in this direction.

My mom and I have also connected so much more since I have told her. We talk everyday and she is already planning my daughter's future for me. haha She can't stop buying baby stuff and I am just so thankful that I get to be this much closer to her. She has also warmed up to my now fiance.

Things are looking up and I couldn't be more happier.

Thank you all for your support.

Re: 19, pregnant, and scared...

MommyRN4 — Wed, 07 Nov 2012 03:50:58 GMT

That's a beautiful name! Congratulations again and I am so happy that we were able to give you support when you needed it!

Re: 19, pregnant, and scared...

NewMommyMadi — Wed, 07 Nov 2012 03:30:44 GMT

Thank you so much for sharing your story with me (and others). It does a world of help that you support me and to know that you have such a great support system. I am also happy to hear that you love your children. I'm sorry that their father is not in their lives, and it is such a loss for him.

As for the heart burn I haven't had it for a long time. And when it does come occasionally I chew on my tums or have a nice cold glass of milk.

I wish you and your two kids the best of luck. And thank you for your support.

Re: 19, pregnant, and scared...

NewMommyMadi — Wed, 07 Nov 2012 03:24:22 GMT

I just wanted to say how much I apriciate all of your feed back and support. If anything has really gotten me through some of this it is all the response I have gotten.

I am so thankful to all of you who have helped and for those of you who have decided to add your own stories. It eases my mind knowing that I am not the only one having problems. Not that I ever really thought that, but it reasures me when I see others speak of their own problems.

I will keep you all updated on everything I am going through.

I also wanted to let you all know that we have picked a name for our little girl! We are going to name her Aurora Wenzday. (first and middle) She has been so active lately and it just rolling around and stretching out. My boyfriend wishes that he could feel her but I told him he has to wait a little longer.

Thank you all again for all your support and I will keep you all updated to let you know what is going on.