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Recently, my daughter had a play date at our house and her friend’s mom sent her little sister along. This was not a problem for us, but I was wondering what everyone’s opinion is? Is it assumed that when there is a play-date that siblings are included? -- Chris, Strongmoms Facilitator
I would think that it would have been cleared by both parents when the play date was set up, just to clarify so there's no surprises. Then again, was the little sister invited? If not then no it wasn't okay. I'm assuming you and the other parent spoke ahead of time about this and mentioned the kids names, was the little sister's name spoken of? You might've just been a cheap babysitter without knowing it. Next time let the play date be at their house and send all 3-4 of your kids since that's apparently acceptable.
I think it depends on the situation: Such as do all the girls get along and are they close in age. I personally don't have much of a problem with it but my girls are going to be 19 months apart and when they are a little older are going to have some of the same friends. I look at it as when my daughters are 6 and 7 they are going to be in the same developmental stage and the more the more the merrier, I can send them all outside to play a rousing game of hide and seek or tag.
However if they don't get along or are not close in age I don't feel it is appropriate, cause then one child is going to feel left out.
It comes down to a matter of personal opinion, did the mother come over for the play date and watch the younger sister or did she just drop them off. I would always ask if it were ok for both of my girls to play and not make assumptions, but I a fine with siblings comings for play dates as I strongly believe in the more the merrier as long the children are well behaved and get along with my girls. My SO however feels that only the child discussed in coming over for the play date should attend. It really is a matter of opinion and consideration. When I do a play date, most of the time I never leave my girl unattended (she is only 18 months and 3 three weeks old right now and her sister is due 13 days) and I doubt that will change until they are school age.
Wow! I think this should have been pre-approved.
I would definitely be surprised! I guess I would just shrug it off and have the little sister along for the play date but if she wasn't expressly invited, I would not be expecting her at all. I wouldn't probably drop my youngest off at a play date for my older child...maybe I'm just not aware of how it works??
If the parent would have asked I would not have given it a second thought. The little sister has palled around with my kids, but I think that communication is important, especially when you don't wnat your children to be a burden to the parent with the play date. The responses so far are what I expected and pretty much mirrored my feelings.