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thanks just he has one son already and its like he shove me my son to side but its all good my son love my life:)
When I am thinking about my son not having his biological father, I think about how my life turned out. My biological father wasn't a part of my life when I was growing up, but my mom did meet a wonderful man who was loving and strong and wanted to be a dad to me. I never knew that I was missing anything. He's been a wonderful dad and the rest of my family was always very supportive of each other. I knew my situation from a young age, but I didn't truly understand until I was about 10 years old. I did try to persue a relationship with my biological father but have learned that my mom made the best choice she could have for the three of us. All I (or any of us) can do is pray that our children will understand, when the time is right, that we have made the best of what life has brought to us, or taken away... and pray that they never feel that they're missing out on anything. And with that... I also think about how tiring it is sometimes to be doing this all by myself. I'm truly not alone, my family is very supportive, but it's not the same as having a significant other there by your side. But here's the thing girls... we do twice the work as single moms, but we also get twice the love. Hold onto that. :) Good luck to each of you, your children are lucky to have you!!
Hi there AidensMomma1021
My name is britney and my son is due in july next year. I wanted to write you because im going thru the same things you went thru and feeling the way you felt about contacting the father. when i told my dude i was pregnant he was like lets make it work for the baby then his family and friends start getting in his head asking if it was his and he shouldn't do anything until he was sure. So when i was two months he told me he had a girlfriend and he moved to virginia with her. It hurt at first but now i don't stress it. I changed my number and went on. Then he started sending emails begging me to please call him. I never did because i didn't need the stress or the drama. I no that my son and his father won't have a real relationship seeing that they live miles and miles away from each other and his father won't make that much of an effort. It just feels better to know that im not alone. I thought all the women on here were happily married baby makers lol just kidding.
every thing happens for a reason so love the ones you'v got and dont stress it just gives ya gray hear
Im glad to hear u guys are working things out! U are very patient with your bf, and it shows how much u love him. My sons Dad also has bipolar so I know exactly what u mean. U just have to take it day by day :)
I know the boat your in because my son is now 2 months old and his father has never texted or called or anything to see how he is doing. His father also said the whole time i was pregnant that he would be a part of his sons life and has yet to prove any of that true. Just keep your head up and think of it this way... if he really meant anything he said he would be there and if not... your baby is better off. All the baby needs is your love. Millions of people were raised with one parents love and are just fine. Keep your head up and I wish you the best.
I am 4 months pregnant.. The father of my child left the picture when i was 2 months yes I'm not far along but so much has happened in this time. As soon as he left me he started his crack addiction again he got abusive towards me and got back with his ex. This is his from what I was told his 5th child. He takes care of NONE and honestly don't even want him involved in our babies life if he is still doing drugs. He also told me he wants to be in this babies life and he will do anything he can to see the baby and will never let anything get in the way. Well I am doing what I can to give him the opportunity to be involved but the option is up to him.. I will not contact him about it and don't ever plan on it. It will be his responsibility to ask me about his child. My advice to you is do the same because the only one missing out is him not the baby.... The baby is MUCH better off without him ...as said before don't bad mouth the father but do tell ur child the truth and let him choose if he wants to find his father in the future.. I wish u the best of luck!!!!
Hi, I have something to say and i hope that maybe this can help you. when my son and daughter were born their dad was the same way. I felt like I was pushing them on him, but i backed off and let him do his own thing and he eventually came along. I overheard his conversation one night with his friends and it broke my heart. It was that he was scared, scared of the bond, scared of what would happen if he was to hurt them, scared to let himself get involved. Then I started to feel really upset about telling him that he was a bad father and how could he want children and then not want to be in their lives. Once they got to about 3 1/2 months old and could roll around and "play" with him, he completley changed into a wonderful father who cant get enough of his kids. Please for your sake, dont beat yourself up over this, remember its our instinct to be mommy's. I think their daddiness comes at a different time. hope this really helps you.
I think you should contact the father. He really shouldn't get the credit of you even wanting to call him to find out his where abouts. Contact him for your son just to say you tried and if he doesn't pull through well you know what you tried. A female should not be able to change his mind about his son the father new he was having a baby he should of been on board the day the baby arrived. Well good luck with your decision and if the father does not want to step up to the plate then trust me god will bless you with someone else who will.
Hi AidensMomma1021 and TiffanyC03,
I am in the same boat you two are in! I have twin daughters who will be 4months old on Feb.24th.....Their biological father has yet to contact me since their birth let alone met his daughters! We split when I was two months along, but luckily I found Mr. Right. Mr. Right (Tim) is a great guy! I Don't know what I would do without him! He has been with me since I was 2 1/2 months along! I hope you two are as lucky as I am to find a guy like i did who wants to step in and be daddy! As for contacting him, I wouldn't! I'm trying to get the girls "sperm donor" to sign over his but he never would so were waiting it out so that he gives up his rights on his own because he hasn't made contact! And I know how you feel his mom kept saying our daughters weren't his when he knew they were his, and so did she! Well I hope all is well for you now!
Jordyn...Momma of Hadley & Haydn
Well forget about contacting him like everyone says its not worth it especially if he denies him...It's only gonna break your child's heart to hear later that his father denied him...remember though many women run off to so it has to be a reason that's probable for both sexes.
I'M READING THROUGH ALL THESE POSTS & IT BREAKS MY HEART TO HEAR ABOUT ALL THESE DADS WHO DON'T WANT TO BE INVOLVED IN THEIR CHILDREN'S LIVES. MY GRANDSON'S DAD IS THE SAME WAY. HE CHEATED ON MY DAUGHTER JUST ABOUT THE WHOLE TIME SHE WAS PREGNANT WHILE ACTING LIKE HE STILL WANTED TO BE INVOLVED. ONCE SHE HAD THE BABY HE CONTINUED TO BE NO HELP. A FEW DOLLARS HERE & THERE DOESN'T DO A THING. NOW HE'S NOT EVEN WORKING & TRIES TO BUM MONEY FROM HER! SHE'S STILL IN HIGH SCHOOL & WORKS PART TIME. THE WORSE THING OF IT ALL IS SHE GETS MAD AT HIM FOR ACTING THE WAY HE DOES BUT GOES BACK WITH HIM. I DON'T BELIEVE HE'LL EVER CHANGE- ALL HE EVER DOES IS STRESS HER OUT. SOMETIMES I WONDER IF MY GRANDSON SHOULD EVEN KNOW HIS DAD- I KNOW THAT DOESN'T SOUND VERY NICE BUT I CAN'T HELP THE WAY I FEEL. I'M TRYING TO ENCOURAGE MY DAUGHTER TO GO TO COLLEGE SO SHE CAN ONE DAY BE ABLE TO FULLY SUPPPORT HER SON WITHOUT HAVING TO RELY ON FAMILY- IS THERE ANYTHING ELSE I CAN DO?
It hurts my heart to hear so many women with the same story. I can speak from the other side of the ropes. I am a daughter of an absentee father. I am also a mother-to be. My mother did an amazing job raising me and I love her dearly for it. Did I have a void in my life? Yes. But my mother made sure I had lots of love and support surrounding me spiritually, emotionally and financially.
Ladies, don't forget that these men have a financial responsibility. He may not want to be involved emotionally and physically, but there are state laws that say he has a financial responsibility to your child. You don't have to be the one to contact him. If he is working, do your research and find out how you can gain assistance to help pay for your child's needs. Diapers are expensive! Daycare is expensive! You don't have to bear the financial responsibility alone.
As I prepare for my daughter's birth, I think of the lessons my mother taught me and I think about them as I look at my husband. I know in my heart of hearts that if he walked out that door tomorrow, we would be just fine. And I would make sure that he would, at the very least be held responsible for his financial part in raising her.
Take care of yourself and your baby! Your story is just beginning!
leave him be. you are better off by yourself for now. and if he wants to be involved later, he will be. my oldest childs father acts like hes the BEST DAD IN THE WORLD and then pawns his kids off onto his mother. he has money for an apartment and to go out drinking, but when he has visitation, my child stays at the grandparents house and daddy goes out and does whatever he pleases. his new thing is that he is getting married in two weeks when he goes out to vegas with his new girlfriend of two months. and they are supposedly going to get a place together in june. so enjoy your child, and he happy you have him all to yourself. i know it gets hard sometimes, make sure you have a good support system of people who truly care about you and your son.
HEY DONT WORRY MY BABY DADDY AND I SPLIT UP WHEN I WAS 4MONTHS PREGNANT, MY BABY WAS A YEAR WHEN WE GOT BACK TOGETHER THEN ALL OF A SUDDEN WE RECENTLY SPLIT UP AGAIN AFTER WE FOUND OUT I WAS PREGNANT HE SAYS HES STILL GOING TO BE AROUND BUT MY BABY IS NOW 2 1/2 AND IM DUE IN MAY BUT YET HAVEN'T HEARD FROM HIM IN A WHILE THEY ALL SAY THEY ARE GOING TO BE THERE BUT NEVER ARE... I SAY YOU SHOULD TRY TO GET HIM INVOLVED WITH THE BABY JUST SEND A PIC OR A MESSAGE REGARDING HOW YOUR SON IS DOING. THATS WHAT I TRIED DOING EVEN THOUGH HE IGNORED RESPONDING BACK BUT HIS MOM ALWAYS SAID HE PEEKED AT THE PIC ONCE IN A WHILE WONDERING ABOUT THE BABY....EVEN THOUGH IN MY PICTURE OF HIM BEING THE PERFECT DAD HE HAS THIS NEW GIRL THAT HAS KIDS ALREADY AND SAD HOW HE TAKES CARE OR THEM AND NOT HIS OWN
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