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im 20 years old as well and im 6 months pregnant and there are times where my bf denies the child but i think it has to with him not having a father growing up as well..it makes them feel like they will fail like there own father did if the father just left..which is what my bfs dad did..so give him his space and time and im sure he will come around when he realizes ur actually pregnant and having a baby..ur still early in ur pregnancy so it hasnt clicked in his head yet..trust me my bf didnt actually becom supportive till he found out i was having a boy..but some come around when they actually realize they are having a child and if for some reason he doesnt come around dont put yourself down cause not only is is bad for you its bad for your baby..just cause the baby wont have a father doesnt mean you got to let yourself down..i know its hard to raise a baby on your own and not have he extra support and have that father figure in your life but the most important thing is you can not let it efffect the baby cause as the baby gets older it may think its his or her fault..just stay strong for you and your baby and i wish you the best of luck!! being a mother should bring joy to your life and not emptyness or sadness
When I first found out my girlfriend was pregnant, I was terrified. I didn't know what to do what was going on, and it's one of the few times in my life I'll admit I cried. I stayed with her through the pregnancy and let me tell you, Having a child, at least from my point of view, didn't "click" for me until I had spent time with him. I didn't have that emotional bond a mother shares with a child until i could hold him in my hands, swaddle him and hold his face close to mine. I hope your child's father will have the chance to do the same, and not just exist for the child or support the child but really be a father.
Don't feel bad because i'm 24 years old 2 weeks from being 8 months and my baby's father could care less also. It hurts us knowing men help make these beautiful kids we carry them and they don't want them. I was the same way with my baby's father and everything took a turn for the worst he want help with his own but with someone eles kids that's what i'm going through.
I'm kind of in the same situtation except i'm six weeks and the guy is only my friend. With mine, I understand his reasoning on wanting a dna test since I have been with one other person although I did use protection... I do not know how men can deny their baby or child but it is better for them to have some one stable and cares then watching two parents argue. I guess what I am saying is do not try to force him. You can do a dna test at 10 weeks pregnate if you wish and he should come around if it is his... My guy is scared too... He wanted me abort the baby of course being the mother who had a miscarriage at 17 it was hurtful to hear him say that but i accepted his rational and logic and just explained I could not do that that the child didi not deserve that and is becoming more accepting of me being pregnate so I guess it depends on the guy....
its scary to think about doing it alone i am 13 weeks and i was alone the first 10 weeks of it but my bf came around hes by my side everyday and takes good care of me just give the guy time :)
i truely believe that some people arent meant to be parents i have two kids one by my high school sweetie and one with my husband when i was with my first daughters dad i thought the world of him i didnt want different even though everyone told me to get out when i was eighteen i got pregnant he was 22 he told me he was too young to be a parent LOL LOL too young i thought i am so much younger than you i am barely an "adult" i pretty much guilted him into a family cause of the years between us we stayed together "for the child" for almost three more years then i grew up realized even though i was with him i was a single lonely parent now i am the happiest i have been my husband is a great dad to both of the girls. her dad see's "our" daughter here and there don't pay support just a drinkin fool of a "musician" the point being sometimes you get wrapped up in the moment and can't see ahead you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders KEEP it dont get wrapped up in him and his wants take care of you and YOUR child the best you can I'm sure you'll be a great parent he may come around he may not that just depends on what kind of person/parent he is but just keep your head up and time will heal and forget him for the time being
that is true it happend to me to
when i was pregnant my sons father did the same thing i finally talked him in to going to the ultrasound...he was still saying it wasnt his and he didnt want him...when my son was born he held him and everything changed now he is so in love with him...you cant pull him away...he apoligized and i asked him why he did that while i was pregnant and he said it was scary and when he seen him and held him it became a reality ...
I know how you feel me and my son's father were together for 10 years and i'm now 22 weeks and my son's father doesn't want to know anything about the baby. All I can tell you is not to stress over it because it's not good for you or the baby everyone keeps telling me he'll come around but I decided to get prepared to be a single mother. The only thing you can do at this point is wait and see what happens because nothing you can say or do will make him change the way he feels he has to want to be there for his baby we can't make these men do anything they don't wanna do no matter how much we think we can. just hope and pray that everything will turn out ok
Sweety i am 19 years old and it is so easy for a man to deny to deny a child then it is a woman we have to carry them for the whole nine months there are some men that deny because they are not sure if the want to take on that responsibilty but the trick to that is he wants a dna test when the baby is born the test proves its his by law he has to take care of that child wether he wants to or not. Men are not like us women we automatically get the motherly love for our unborn child.When he see's the baby things may change and to be honest i hope they do.And men are usuaslly stupid and selfish.
In my opinion if the father is denying being the father and not want this child then he never did love you and only wanted one thing from you. If he was in love with you he would be with you all the way. I'm sorry I don't mean to sound harsh but, think about it if someone loved you they wouldn't say you are pregnant by someone else and not want the child. I do wish you the best of luck hang in there the baby will brighten your life.
Listen TinamarieSM, I want you to be concern with staying happy and healthy throughout your pregnancy. Pray that the father comes around and if not then you surround yourself with positive male role moles. Do the DNA and if he's the father put his name on the birth certificate and if he wants to be apart of the baby's life then let him.