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im so sorry.. im going through the exact same situation except he knows this is his kid and he wants nothin to do with me and acts like he dont care and dont want anythin to do with my baby either. i didnt have a farther in my life either. its hard but we are strong women and we will get through it. it will be hard at first but im telling you it will get easier. im here anytime if you need to talk :) good luck with ur pregancy
the only way a father can deny his child is if he truly is a horrible person down to the core, move on, there is other fish in the sea and you can find a great guy who will be a dad to your child. Any man can be a father, only a real man can be a Dad. In other words, dont focus on biology, focus on whats best for your baby.
So sorry that you are going through this difficult time in your life, but please stay focus and grap a hold to the love for your child. Ask God to come into your life (if you had not done so) and ask him to be the Man in your life, he will give you abundant love and pleasure like you never can imagine. You are blessed to have a child growing inside of you, so take that blessing and be the best Mother that you can be. We (women) are survivors and there is nothing we cannot do - especially if God is on your side. I will be praying for you and God bless you to have a healthy, happy pregnancy.
My advice to that situation is that you need to worry about the baby and you. Yes indeed, it is sad that the father to be is acting that way. However, you are a strong woman and you still have a lot to learn. If he don't want to be there physical, don't sweat it, trust me been there done that. There is still a thing call child support. Regardless, he still have to help take care of the baby someway. Now as far as you still being friends and being around each other is not good because he is disrespecting you and the baby. The father to be is not worth it if he is claiming not to be the father and he making it seem like you the only one involved in this situation. Let him know honey, that you are not going to let him slide, he is the father and he will take care of his responsibility. Lastly, please don't hangout with him if he is acting that way. It may be hard but put your foot down and show him that he can't play you that way. You are a strong and wonderful person and he need to see that. God bless you and you take care and you do the right thing for the baby. This baby is more important than that man...sorrry that boy who is denying the precious baby.
I disagree with you Andrew! A mother can not deny her child, her child grows inside of her for months. A father on the other hand can claim the whole pregnancy that the child is not his!
I have a friend that is 20 and has a 5 week old, her husband didn't want any kids, he will not help with they baby at all he won't work or anything to help support her or they baby alot of guys are like that and even if u guys were together he may still have nothing to do with the baby
My situation is a bit opposit of yours. I don't want the father of my child in our life and he isn't. The reason bing he isn't good for either of us, abusive to me and into drugs. I do hope that this person if he changes his mind will want to be the best dad he can be. But if not, I hope that you can be the best mommy for your baby. I am a young mom too and this one is my first. I hope it works out for the better. IF anything else, if you put his name on the birth certificet(SP), or any paper work it gives him responsibility. So in a way he will always be a part of your guys life. He may want to be active in it. Take care of you first and formost. Make sure you do that and it will show through when you see your baby, and you'll take care of him/her too. Good luck
I went through the same thing. The father of my baby denied being the father but he came to a few doctors appointments and held my hand when I was having the baby. Dont worry when the baby comes into the world he will change his story. Especially if the baby looks just like him. He is not there as much as I want him to be now but I have to be that mother that takes care of her business. My mother did it with 3 so I know I can do it with one.
I KNOW HOW U FEEL AFTER HAVING 2 DAUGHTER FROM MY EX HUSBAND I GOT PREGNANT AGAIN FROM HIM AT FRIST HE DID SAID THAT THE BABY WAS HIS, BUT NOW HE SAY IT"S NOT FROM TIME TO TIME HE CALLS ME BECUZ OF OUR OTHER DAUGHTERS WE HAVE. HE DOSE ASK HOW I AM N IF THE BABY IS OK, BUT WHEN HIS GURLFRIEND IS AROUND AND HE CALLS HE ALWAYS SAY THE BABY IS NOT HIS.... AT THE POINT IM SO TRIED OF IT THAT I DONT EVEN TRY TO TALK TO HIM AND WHEN THE NEW BABY CAMES IT WONT CARRY HIS LAST NAME, I TOLD HIM I DONT NEED HIM AND THAT HE CAN STAY WITH HIS NEW GURLFRIEND, BUT I KNOW HE WILL CAME AROUND WHEN SHE IS BORN BECUZ MY OTHER 2 GURLS LOOK JUST LIKE HIM, IF THE BABY THAT U R GOING TO HAVE LOOKS LIKE HIM HE WILL CAME AROUND. JUST WAIT N SEE...ALWAYS MOTHER OF 3
IM 15 WEEKS PREG. N MY BABY'S DADDY SAID THAT HE WANTED TO HAVE A DNA TEST IN HIS WORDS "I ANT A DNA TEST NOTHING AGAINST YOU... JUS WANT TO BE 100%." I MEAN YEA I GOT EXTRA MAD BECAUSE HE ACTING LIKE I WAS JUS SLEEPING AROUND WIT A LOT OF GUYS AND I WASN'T. I MEAN I WANTED TO BE WIT HIM AT THE TIME BUT IT DIDNT WORK OUT. THE ONLY REASON HE SAID IT IS BECAUSE HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND THAT DONT LIKE ME N HE TAKING CARE OF HER CHILD N SHE DNT WNT ME TO MESS THAT GOOD THING UP.... BUT LIKE I TOLD HIM TODAY HE CAN GET A FREE ONE WHEN I PUT HIM ON CHILD SUPPORT!!!!! N HE GOT ALL MAD BUT I GOTTA DO WHAT I GOTTA DO BECAUSE IF HE ACTING LIKE THAT NOW THINKING MY BABY IS NOT HIS (WHICH IT IS) HE ALWAYS BE LIKE THT JUS BECAUSE OF HIS LITTLE GIRLFRIEND... SO DNT STRESS OVER IT. BECAUSE ALL WE CAN DO IS BE A STRONG MOTHER FOR OUR CHILD!!!!! SO BE HAPPY ENJOY THIS GIRL!!! DNT CRY OVER NO DUDE... HE WILL GET IT!!!!
He is probably scared, and afraid of big resposibility which is having and raising a baby. Sometimes men act like this during pregnancy, but once they see the baby they change their behaviors. They start to see the resemblings of their own. Having the baby is such a beautiful experience. Regardless of what will happened in your future make sure give a lot of love to little bundle of joy. Remember there will be a lot of ups and downs, but everything will change when you see your child smile at you.
Alot of young fathers are just scared, and don't know how to handle the pressure of becoming a parent. I am 20 as well and the stress was hard for me and my boyfriend at first, because we are young. But we talked about our feeling and anxieties together to kind of cope with the pressure we have ahead of us. He will come aroung once he see that beautifull baby, and hopefully he will step up and surprise you, by being the best father he can possible be. Good luck and congratulations. Remember dont stress not healthy for your body but the little one growing inside of you. I hope everything turns around for you!!! And if he is not there, let your family be your support system, because its great to have someone there.
Sorry to hear you're going through this. Your story is exactly like mine 16 years ago. I was 19 then. The father was in my baby's life until my son turned 1 1/2 yrs old. Then he rejected us. It was the best thing that could have happened to us. I rather us be alone than have an abusive person mistreating us. Or maybe someone not ready for parenthood and putting my son through an emotional roller coaster. Remember, what you don't know won't hurt. You and your baby will be fine. Work hard, be a good listener, support your baby. You will look back and see what a great job you did on your own. I know I did. My son was accepted into college at 14 yrs. He is a great kid and is very close to me. I wish you the best and hope that my story will only make you stronger and start your journey on the right foot.
I have been married twice and I am now the mother of 7, his-mine-& ours. My first husband and I were 20 & 21 when my oldest son was born. We got married, that lasted two years. He has since gone on to make TONS of money. About 3 years ago, he filed papers with his attorneys to contest paternity and because I do not have the money to fight him, he won. Which means no child support and no "father" for our then 13 year old son.
My suggestion sweetie is this, be friends, don't worry about the relationship with him and you. When the little one is born, do the paternity test. When it is proved that it is in fact his child, file for child support. When that happens and a man is forced to take responsibility, he often will want to have a relationship with the child as well. The bottom line is that you want to have both of you in baby's life. Make him take that responsibility, but don't try to have a relationship with him, if that is what is in the future, then it will happen on it's own.
My son would have been better off never to have known his father who is cruel and heartless. I hate to say it but there are both mothers and fathers out there like that. My husband and I have custody of his youngest 3 sons from a second marriage and mom is not in the picture much for various reasons. I have been in their lives for about 11 years and I am "mom". My son has had my husband in his life for the same 11 years and my husband is "dad". In this day there are mostly blended families and you are young right now so you probably can't see the alternative possibilities but there are good people out there who will love you and your child no matter what and those are the people you need to surround yourself with.
Good luck to you!
Whos to say the baby will not have a good father figure. As long as your there nothing else will matter in my opinion. Of coarse the baby will want to know the biological father that's when something I guess had to be said. I don't think it should really be negative but the truth. my opinion. I know either way kids are going to all take things differently so.....